Dope Tech Episode 2

<<@TomBilyeu says : WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!>> <<@pravitt4852 says : 9 months and I'm still fucked Lol.>> <<@danielfleckenstein7107 says : funny what he said about people not reading the same book week after week and they're not watching the same video week after week....I watch the same podcast episodes all the time over and over...because podcasts for me are like movies...I watch them. not just listening in my headphones. I love them. Joe rogan, andrew huberman, chris williamson, Tom etc. I watch my favorite episodes repeatedly. That's just me though. Not sure if other people do that>> <<@piotrc3718 says : Oh gosh, it's so amazing and so eye opening!>> <<@lourdescole says : “There are a bunch of credentials” He’s gross>> <<@mcmaddox says : 45:53-46:07 #same 😬>> <<@kylepatton2423 says : At 39:24 he says in order to have a good relationship/friendship with someone you need to have something in common. Not true at all, for me I like having nothing in common with anyone and arguing. My best friend tells me to go F myself after getting into a heated argument on the daily we have absolutely nothing in common. If I'm in a relationship with a woman that doesn't want to fight with me I get bored and leave. I need constant chaos, problems and trauma or I'll be like the guy that doesn't want to get out of bed in the morning and stares at the ceiling all day with no motivation. Life for me needs to be constant warfare.>> <<@JF-Gagné says : Wow so much interesting topics... I'm buzzed out by what you say about meaning and purpose and not having kids...>> <<@mystic-witch-moon-ms2bi says : The adverts ruined this...I physically cannot have children. Wtf sort of advice is that?>> <<@danielfleckenstein7107 says : This is a great conversation Tom. Thank you>> <<@Superdisco199 says : There is no faster way to make enemies than jumping on a dating site. You should really dig into how it alters people neurologically and behaviourally. It normalises incredibly anti-social behaviors, removes accountability, comodifies people etc. There is a growing war between the sexes and it needs to be addressed before society is broken by it.>> <<@ExecutiveZombie says : Dinner Bells. 🔔☀️😎>> <<@ExecutiveZombie says : I don’t have to live with you or your attitude and bad behaviors. I have the power to leave and walk away; however, I cannot leave myself! I CANNOT WALK AWAY FROM MY INTEGRITY AND MY RIGHTEOUSNESS…. I have to contend with me, so I can be at peace and not live in shame. 🙏🏽☀️ You have the power to reject others but you’ll justify bad behavior and live with deep shame if you lie to yourselves and are not righteous to others.>> <<@vidalsisneros4955 says : Tom - remember all Knowledge is neutral, as it depends on the User to give it function. Happy thoughts.>> <<@joichristi says : It’s not what the cool kids are saying…I think you’re both now the cool kids…thank you for speaking up and sharing…I’ve wondered what I’m experiencing from my husband and you’ve given words to my experience…thx!!!>> <<@BloomStats says : Radical Responsibility, Acceptance, and Growth. Good points there. Thank you!>> <<@SophiaAphrodite says : It is interesting how you have a guy on your show that mocks the BS of 99% of the other people you have on your show unironically.>> <<@ChrisjayH1 says : re therapy not scaling - chatgpt plus a deepfake style video might solve that.>> <<@TheAnticarnist says : I'm sorry but you should NEVER encourage people who don't want kids to have kids. For multiple reasons.>> <<@sx1nsty says : We've been lied to.. you can have a career that makes more than a figures or a relationship not both..>> <<@sx1nsty says : I've done 13 million in sales since 2013 100 000hrs in a dark office by myself and have no friends... I've just continued to double down on be an isolated man on a island All I need is a cellphone and wifi to make money and feel connected>> <<@sx1nsty says : If just watching major influencers on YouTube in your field of industry counts? I work 80 hrs a week and find myself to exhausted to get out in the real world..>> <<@forgetaboutit192 says : he looks like hes done a ton of drugs>> <<@solairith6467 says : Women absolutely have to face rejection as well.>> <<@adriangarcia9218 says : Very valuable advice in here. Thank you 🙏🏼>> <<@rosemarietolentino3218 says : You said it yourself absurd and can’t be done in the flesh…>> <<@mackss9468 says : All minds are formed through evolution. Just letting you know.>> <<@Lemariecooper says : Engaging with books has significantly elevated my perspective on investing. True wealth isn't built through mere savings; financial freedom stems from strategic investments. I've learned that accumulating wealth hinges on making prudent investment decisions.>> <<@zcallis1 says : Therapy is bullshit for weak people. Therapists are merchants of pity.>> <<@davidmaddon554 says : Wrong I often do read the same book week after week or play the same five to ten audiobooks and n repeat.>> <<@CaneBTC says : So a fat virgin found a solution: Not caring. LOL>> <<@justinkeyser9130 says : The change is qualitative in nature.. Emotions drive behaviours and there is often a diconnect between the intellect and the emotions. Bringing those into sync is why therapy works.>> <<@joannhandsford7579 says : Wait- this deserves attention “you don’t stop feeling bad, you feel bad and find a way to respond well to it” this was a so freeing>> <<@alejmc says : Damn, the way he laughs ( 2:01:41 ) at the “torturing yourself for 10 years for no reason” in the pursuit of success was quite authentic 😂, as if he was laughing both at himself at having been played, at all the others that did and those currently waiting in line to fall on the same trap today and all the incoming years 🤣🤣>> <<@universaltruth2025 says : Very interesting discussion about how to sustain meaning, purpose and motivation in life and the role children play in this. I have children and I know they are the most important aspect of my life and they do give me purpose meaning and a desire to keep going and work hard. But I sometimes feel guilty that we bring children into the world often to fulfil our own needs for meaning & purpose and other aspects like social status - but its the child that has to then figure out how to survive his /her own life and then go on to make the same difficult choice over whether to keep the cycle going. I agree if you don’t have children you need another purpose to stay motivated and basically to live for.>> <<@bridgettewhite5582 says : I want a relationship like his.>> <<@bdo7915 says : Its a foundation in discipline. U cant implement skills without discipline. Do 1 stretch a day to establish your practice. ☯️🍻>> <<@DeBaanDB says : God has a Tom-shaped hole 🕳️ in his heart. So happy to see the wonderful things you are doing with your life, and working to lift your fellow man 💪🏼. Thank you, sir.>> <<@foreveradrift says : I have no interest in having children. However, I believe it is possible that I feel different in the future. In which case, I would like to adopt.>> <<@dameanvil says : 00:55 📚 Mark Manson highlights the challenge of implementing self-help advice, emphasizing that information isn't the issue, but rather the format or approach to behavioral change. 02:33 🔄 Traditional therapy is effective for behavioral change, but it's not easily scalable or accessible to everyone due to factors like cost, time, and credentials. 03:13 🔄 Mark Manson's personal change involved a combination of therapy and his ability to be adaptable with his identity and goals. 04:49 🏷️ Mark Manson avoids rigid labels to allow for personal growth and change, emphasizing the importance of flexibility in self-identity. 06:34 🔄 Mark Manson discusses his ability to shift focus and goals, highlighting the importance of anchoring oneself emotionally to drive progress. 12:23 📚 While ideas are essential, Mark Manson notes they are only part of the equation; implementation and validation are equally crucial for lasting behavioral change. 15:28 🗝️ Mark Manson highlights three universal principles for personal development: radical responsibility, radical acceptance of emotions, and a focus on progress for oneself and others. 23:17 🏆 Setting and achieving goals requires going the extra mile and doing hard things better than others. There are 10 impactful steps to 100x your efficiency. 23:46 🌟 Finding meaning and purpose is crucial for achieving greatness. Many give up in the early stages, but persistence is key. 24:14 🗣️ Success is a game of attrition. Many quit due to self-doubt, negative self-talk, or a lack of anchoring values. Anchoring to self-improvement can provide enduring motivation. 25:25 🧠 The human mind isn't like a computer with an operating system; it's shaped by evolution. Serving the group and being of service to others is deeply ingrained in human behavior. 26:18 📺 Finding joy and passion in activities is important, but once mastered, redirecting focus towards serving others can provide a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment. 28:18 👪 Having children often brings newfound purpose and meaning, driving individuals to make positive changes in their lives for the well-being of their family. 29:14 💑 Balancing self-care and caring for others is essential. Strive for a win-win situation where you take care of yourself while also benefiting the group. 30:25 🌍 In a modern context, as birth rates decline, consciously choosing not to have children requires thoughtful consideration. Kids can provide instant meaning and purpose. 35:31 🔄 Trading physical struggle for psychological struggle is a hidden cost of modern comforts and freedom. Existential questions arise when meaning isn't predefined. 39:16 🤝 Quality over quantity is crucial in relationships. Sharedvalues, complementary personalities, and exposure to the same people over time foster strong bonds. 41:09 👥 Aligning on key aspects like lifestyle habits, religion, politics, and life goals is important for successful relationships. Finding a balance between agreement and healthy disagreement is key. 45:36 🤯 Isolation can be the most severe form of punishment for humans, and the human mind craves social interaction to the point where it may even hallucinate if deprived. 46:57 🍆 Recognize the fundamental importance of your sex drive and the role it plays in human behavior, relationships, and decision-making. 48:23 💑 In long-lasting relationships, maintaining a healthy sex life is crucial, especially as it's easy for couples to experience "bed death" after having children or due to busy lives. 49:06 👫 Understanding attachment styles, like avoidant attachment, and how past emotional baggage can affect your ability to maintain healthy romantic relationships. 55:10 💍 Making a pros and cons list when deciding to commit to a monogamous relationship and recognizing the value of sharing your life with someone. 01:07:28 🧐 Challenges in modern dating include the paradox of choice due to dating apps and the prolonged process of identity formation, making it harder for individuals to commit to long-term relationships. Selecting the right partner and shared values are crucial. 45:23 🧠 Isolation is a severe form of punishment; humans need social interaction to the point of hallucination in its absence. 46:03 🌐 The human brain craves social interaction to the extent that it may create imaginary interactions when isolated. 46:57 ⚙️ Recognizing and understanding fundamental drives like sex is crucial for personal development and healthy relationships. 48:23 💑 Building and maintaining long-lasting relationships, especially in marriage, requires intentional effort, including prioritizing intimacy. 49:19 💔 "Avoidant attachment" can lead to pushing people away due to fear of rejection; self-awareness is key to breaking this pattern. 52:55 💪 Overcoming emotional patterns and growing within a relationship can lead to profound personal development and a deeper connection. 55:38 💍 Choosing a long-term committed relationship over casual experiences may involve sacrifices but offers unique and deeply meaningful rewards. 57:42 💌 The depth and impact of a decade-long shared journey in a committed relationship far outweigh the thrill of transient experiences. 01:00:55 🥇 Achieving success and wealth may not replace the fulfillment derived from a loving, long-term partnership. 01:05:07 🧩 Figuring out one's identity and life path before committing to a long-term relationship is often seen as important for a successful partnership. 01:08:36 🧠 Understanding each other's strengths and personalities is crucial for a successful partnership. Mark Manson and his wife excel in different areas, which allows them to work together effectively. 01:09:19 🤝 Open communication about strengths, weaknesses, and roles is essential. Aligning values and acknowledging each other's strengths and weaknesses is the foundation for a successful partnership. 01:10:15 ⚙️ Clearly defined roles, not necessarily based on gender, are important in any relationship. Having defined responsibilities helps avoid conflicts and ensures smoother cooperation. 01:10:57 💑 Modern dating requires effective screening. Asking upfront about important values, beliefs, and life goals can save time and help find compatible partners. 01:12:37 💬 Being open and honest from the start sets the tone for a genuine and strong connection. Mark Manson's approach of being aggressively himself on the first date led to a successful long-term relationship. 01:15:05 💘 Acknowledging attraction outside the relationship is normal. It's important to focus on the commitment and choice to be with one's partner. 01:17:50 🔥 Expressing love and admiration regularly strengthens the relationship. Complimenting genuinely and regularly reinforces positive feelings and creates a stronger bond. 01:21:04 💔 It's not about avoiding fights, but rather about fighting effectively. Learning to argue without blame, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling is crucial for a lasting relationship. 01:28:25 🚫 Popular dating advice often promotes an adversarial mindset, framing relationships as a battle, which can be counterproductive. 01:29:32 💔 There's a need for honest conversations about the challenges in modern dating, including dating apps and societal dynamics. 01:31:09 🔄 Unhealthy relationship advice, focusing on power dynamics, has been a recurring theme across generations. 01:32:04 💡 Insecure individuals may be drawn to advice that emphasizes power and control in relationships due to feelings of disempowerment. 01:33:16 🔄 Superficial fixes like manipulating power dynamics may lead to unfulfilling relationships in the long run. 01:34:21 🔁 Relationship advice trends tend to cycle through generations, each addressing the dating challenges of their time. 01:35:53 ⚖️ Acknowledging the asymmetry of dating challenges faced by both men and women can lead to better understanding and empathy. 01:38:27 💐 Overly romantic gestures may not necessarily be effective in dating; non-neediness and self-assuredness are more attractive qualities. 01:40:47 🎯 Focusing on personal growth and becoming proficient at something meaningful can boost self-respect and attractiveness. 01:42:40 🔄 Dating experiences help individuals understand their preferences and compatibility, leading to more informed relationship choices. 01:46:52 🧩 Finding a compatible partner isn't about perfect matches, but about aligning with someone whose unique qualities complement your own. 01:48:46 🛏️ One-night stands can lead to feelings of disconnection and awkwardness, even during intimate moments. 01:52:40 🧠 People's happiness and meaning in life are largely influenced by who they spend time with, what they pursue, and what others think of them. 01:54:17 💭 Non-attachment, a concept from Buddhism, can be a useful perspective for navigating social validation and approval, recognizing them as transient mental constructs. 01:56:07 🏔️ Balancingambition with non-attachment: Embracing challenges and potential failure while understanding the impermanence of goals and outcomes. 02:00:18 💡 Success is a subjective construct; achieving it may not necessarily alleviate insecurities or fundamentally change how one feels about oneself. 02:03:16 💰 There's an optimal level of fame and wealth; excessive fame may come with challenges that outweigh its benefits, while ample financial success can enhance one's lifestyle without needing extreme wealth.>> <<@FreedomFlagsNH says : To hell with giving a fuck!>> <<@zeedo666 says : His second book is soooo much better than the first one! I read the first one 10 years ago and a month ago, and it seems outdated now: just some bitching about millenials (which was in fashion 10 years ago) I read his second book just after completing the first one and I was so impressed by certain anegdotes about Nietsche and other characters I've never heard about that I would actually reach out for the original Nietsche's work now out of curiosity. The book actually shows behind the scenes of various ideologies, trends etc. that are manipulating the masses>> <<@steyraug96 says : Regarding having children: watch the first 10 minutes of Idiocracy. This is a comedic take on the whole situation. Those who SHOULD have children, get everything in order first, and it becomes too late... Those who don't care, have kids, who are idiots like their parents.... and the world suffers as a result. Make a meritocracy, generation after generation. Almost impossible, but best option.>> <<@adaptivebusinessconsulting8080 says : Nauseating and self congratulating..>> <<@yourdadishere says : Everytime this Manson guy talks, I'm like f%$k he's dumb.>> <<@markartist8646 says : "Workout your own salvation with fear and trembling." I don't care for the title. Real change requires commitment and a whole lot of discomfort over a long period of time. You're not going to read a book and experience deep transformation.>> <<@tamarawest6203 says : I wouldn't encourage people to have kids just to find meaning and purpose in life. This is such an incredibly selfish reason to have kids. Find meaning and purpose in life first then consider having children, if you so desire it. Then you will be in a place to give to the kids rather than expecting to get something out of the kids by becoming thier parent.>> <<@brandinshaeffer8970 says : I really hope your wife doesn't have DEEP REGRET one day. I think things may be a bit different for women. I am 50, have an extremely fulfilling career, the best marriage I've ever seen, we travel, I'm attractive fit healthy. The decision to not have kids was made intentionally and was fine until i got into my late 40's. At 50 it hit me so hard i felt sick. I will never forgive myself for not having a child. I have 6 female friends here in los Angeles who are also childless in their 50's, super cool careers, and also quietly devastated.>> <<@groooobytooby1306 says : Yeah no, kids are not the answer. Only have them if you have an abundance of love to give, never as a trigger for hoping to develop love to give. SMH>> <<@vapeking466 says : Having my unplanned son was the best thing that ever happened to me! God wants us to have families and children! The population reduction is all by design brought to you by the elites one being The World Economic Forum. As a older introvert meeting people in real life and having real life connections are getting more difficult to come by as more and more tech is introduced. I've been in a few long term relationships in my life and would love to be in one again it's just getting more difficult to make in person connections nowadays.>>