Living together before marriage is a common practice today. In fact, according to Pew Research, 78% of those aged 18-29 believe it is fine for couples to live together, even if the couple does not plan to get married. As Christians, what are we to do when our co-habiting friends do decide to finally get married? If you go to the wedding, are you supporting their sin? Frank's answer may surprise you.
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Rather support a wedding then them staying together without being married. But make your voice heard. And let them know that you were.not in favour of this type of arrangement to begin with
@regstoy Says:
Distancing yourself from actual, living, breathing, real friends, to avoid upsetting your imaginary friend in the clouds.
@zacsam1615 Says:
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@shawnmichaelduncan5951 Says:
Guy in tshirt sounds on drugs.
@neildalessandro8196 Says:
Geesh, some people like to pick the dumbest things to have a serious conviction about. There's no reason anyone needs to feel like they can't go to a wedding of a couple who was living together. Is his faith that weak that even that is unclean for him? No wonder the Church is in such bad shape. Christians have let themselves be defined mainly by what they're against rather than what they're for, which is why they haven't been getting anywhere. For all the Church's zeal for ensuring marriage and sex is done in the proper order, they've clearly lost sight of what the real reason for keeping sex in marriage is. It's to actively foster sexual relationships, providing a setting for them that ensures they are healthy, enduring, and are built out of love. Sex is inherently good and a gift from God. Don't only look at what the couple is doing at the moment, but also where the relationship is headed and what keeps them together. Unless the Church learns to integrate their traditional family values with a sex positive attitude and lets go of its insecurities, they will never overcome sexual sin or heal brokenness found in so many relationships.
@blueeyedsoulman Says:
Usually people that live together are sleeping together although they would probably be sleeping together even if they lived apart.
I have yet to meet a girl that didn't push me to sleep with her within a month. It's HELL being a guy. You get accused of being gay if you don't make a move on them or they put you in the "just friends" category. Most married people have had sex before marriage and they know it's an almost impossible thing to impose on someone. It's an unfair culture. Men are accused of things that the women are fully guilty of. I've seen it a thousand times. The whole idea of controlling this by "sending messages" is crazy. Do you think they really care what others think? Think about the pressure I mentioned. Celibacy is an unusual gift. Most people denied love are miserable. Sex between two people who are madly in love is an impossible thing to control. They might hold out for a while but they will question their romantic love for each other for sure. I know guys that have been jilted because they would not have sex with their girlfriend. It's rare and refreshing to hear that a couple is willing to wait. Whether I believe them or not is another story. I would like to, of course. The only lasting love is the love described by Paul in the bible: Sacrificial love. Marriage is a decision that becomes a duty, not a feeling. Most people don't get that. You get up every morning and decide your going to love this person. That's what it amounts to.
@deputydog5261 Says:
Have there ever been two sinless people get married, we are all sinners all the time until our death or the rapture. Is not all sin, sin in the eyes of God. So if your two friends sometime lie, are prideful, have immoral thoughts etc.. but don’t live together will you go to the wedding. Are you only planning to attend weddings of pure sin free people, I think you will never attend a wedding in that case including your own. Romans 3/23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.
@cartyrdeyager Says:
That question is full of jusgement
@rodneysabuero Says:
In my opinion though, if love is right and if it is really love. Then the fruit will always be good. Not all married couples are loyal to their partners, and not all couples lived together mean they did not really love each other. My point is that whatever the road takes you, if you really have that Love, in your heart, then that will lead you to right path. There are really a lot of factors why couples choose not to marry first. As long as love is true it will lead you to the right path.
@TheNikolinho Says:
i don't see a big problem if you do attend. first, everyone sins. second, if you would attend a wedding only to those perfect people who didn't even touch each other before the marriage, i guess you may attend one wedding a year. by going to this wedding, you don't sin. you don't support their sins either, just as if they would come to your house and you cussed or watched porn or were aggressive to your family member it wouldn't mean they're supporting your sin. it just means they came as friends to witness something and to celebrate you and your life. you are going to celebrate a heterosexual marriage. no need to look for perfection in order to go as a visitor, you don't have to like or agree with absolutely everything.
@sub-wr9xi Says:
I think most are missing the point... And rushing to comment... The idea is what stops other people from doing the same sin? if I can get married after living together with someone... And someone else did the right thing... What would be the motive for doing the right thing if the church is happy whether someone sinned or not...it's rewarding sin... And everyone can jump to the opportunity since it has no consequences ... This is similar to 1 Corinthians 5,where you have sin but the church decides to not react to it probably because it seems more righteous... Correcting a sin should not mean no consequences.... If you look at the 2 situations where David sinned... You'll notice that God forgave but still placed consequences... And I'm sure you do the same with your children.. If 1 child steals and apologizes.. And another one doesn't steal... Because the other one apologized do you treat them the same because it's a good thing to apologize? No... If you do it's injustice and you're actually teaching the one who didn't steal to steal and apologize... Some might compare what I'm saying to the parable of the prodigal son with the elder brother... But it's not cos the prodigal son lost his money while the elder has, so there's a difference between the one who sinned and the one who didn't... Blurring the line between someone who sinned and someone who didn't is asking for trouble
@ferdinandagordon223 Says:
What about people who have not lived together but have had sexual relations with each other and then decide to get married? No one would go to anyone's wedding because all fall short of the glory of God.
@FiciousCritik Says:
Don't delay the Gospel.
Someone will die by then, could be you, could be them ... God only knows.
@johnelliott5859 Says:
A religion that infers you can't attend such a wedding is not worth following. What right do I have to tell someone how to live? And celebrating someone else's life moments doesn't mean I would live my life the same way. The same religion will see homosexuality as evil and exclude those people as well. No thanks, Frank. Frank's idea of love is skewed. Imagine not attending your own child's wedding because they were gay or were already living with someone. What kind of religion would have you not support or even ignore your own child?
@NewCreationInChrist896 Says:
We're not to live with our significant other until marriage because we're not to put ourselves in a position to sin or to be tempted. His question to his friend is repentance. If you're forming a union as couple with God in marriage you should repent of past sins prior to your marriage.
@tdcason247 Says:
What would y’all say about this scenario if they had never lied in bed together? But they’re still living together
@siesoonki1746 Says:
So Jesus was accused of dining with prostitutes and tax-collectors... EX-prostitutes and Ex-tax-collectors? ... I think not ALL had repented. Did He wait for them to repent before they can enter the door? By dining with them, does that infer Jesus support their life choices as being said above?
@jerrodlopes186 Says:
Having a wedding doesn't make you married. If it is true that you must have a wedding to be married, then all LGBT people who had a wedding are married. Further, If a couple converts from Islam, Judaism, Buddhism or Satanism, do they have to seperate and be remarried as Christians?
Here is the truth. God marries one man and one woman. There is no scripture in the Bible that lays out a process for ritualistically being married. God unites a man and woman. No one else can. A legal marriage is a seperate issue. You cannot say a couple isn't married because they didn't have a wedding that fits your social construct. If so, then, Adam and Eve weren't married by today's standards. Neither were Abram and Sarah.
You are deceived, Christian. Satan has turned a beautiful gift from God into an arrogant show of opulence and extravagance.
Men, get on your knees and hold hands with your beloved. As spiritual head of your new family you ask God to forgive both your sins and join you as husband and wife. If you can have a witness or two, great. If you choose to do it in a place of worship, fine. Don't be sinful in doing it. Drunken lewd bachelor/bachelorette parties, nope. Worldly music and lascivious dancing, nope. Crazed madness trying to put on the perfect spectacle, nope. Paying a priest, pastor, judge....to do something they can't do, nope.
Ask God. Praise God. Thank God.
@oceandew7795 Says:
Why shd there be a public wedding....isn't it all right if man and woman make their vows to one another , God as witness and live out their lives? Having a big ceremony doesn't seem to make it any better.
@professorpapi6027 Says:
Living with your girlfriend/ boyfriend isn’t a sin. Having sex before marriage is a sin. The temptation is there. If you can resist temptation there’s no issue. Girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Both started following god about 4 years into the relationship and we haven’t had sex in almost over a year. And we sleep in different bedrooms until we’re married. If you can resist temptation and control yourself it’s not a sin
@Tatteredghost96 Says:
What about goin to a gay wedding? Is tht wrong?
@Paulthored Says:
Doesn't the guy asking Frank, remind anyone of Ryan Stiles from "Who's Line"?
Edit: Nice to see no dislikes yet. ✝️😇👍🏼
@philb4462 Says:
Just respect people's decisions. They may not make the same choices as you. Get over it. This includes if a man wants to marry a man or a woman wants to marry a woman. Just get over it.
@andrevisser7542 Says:
It is not the ceremony that makes people married, it is having sex that do...
@JessiV111 Says:
I’m so confused about this video
@johnmark1616 Says:
Good job at reading between the lines, because we all knew where this guy was really going with this question. The ole "gotcha you're a hypocrite question about gay marriage disguised as another thing I've heard that Christians don't like" question.
@pierreramos8018 Says:
1 Cor. 10:23-33
@Acontinuist Says:
The part obout loving them and continuing in fellowship, I don't completely agree with. For a season, yes, in the hope of conversion. But there comes a time to seek the Lord on it, and ultimately to let go.
True love is obedience to the Lord, not human sentiments.
2 Cor 6.14
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
@BlueCielo22 Says:
I mean the sin is literally not being married and already living together, now they're solving that by getting married? So deciding not to go to the wedding because they had already been living together is just ridiculous and a littl holier than thou acting? Like your problem is that they're not married.... And now they're getting married, they're now obeying God like I think you should be 100% supportive of that decision like goodness you may as well not support anyone's decision because prior they were a sinner gosh no one would support each other ever. Especially with the fact that we've all sinned! Especially with regards to sexual sin. That's like not going to an alcoholics sobriety celebration because prior to it they were alcoholics 🤷 you see the logic?
@kiwisaram9373 Says:
I think the larger issue is allowing the unrepentant or unbelievers to make vows before God. Can they do so without taking His name in vain? And who would encourage that?
@sierraclark6129 Says:
“If you declare with your mouth “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved” (Romans 10:9). Now is the time to accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior. Obey His commands and repent of your sins because Jesus is coming back soon. Tomorrow isn’t promised.
@todbeard8118 Says:
Funny how God was fine with biblical characters having multiple children with multiple wives in Old Testament scripture, then changed his mind. Solomon had 300 wives and God didn't have a problem with that.
@alvarogomez4936 Says:
Stop erasing my comments. You should let people know how they really feel.
@berliannahaz423 Says:
At first i thought the question is about 2nd marriage (after divorce) or marriage that started from affairs.
@mbkkt9094 Says:
Why wouldn't somebody attend a same-sex wedding?
@mbkkt9094 Says:
Can't believe this is even a question in this day and age
@BigIdeaSeeker Says:
The fact that Christians even think this way- and it’s more common than you’d think- shows how the religion (in this case as practiced in evangelicalism) really screws people up. It just that much more gross that a Xtian can say to close friends who are a same-sex couple, “sorry, I can’t celebrate the happiest day of your life with you because I love Jesus. But let’s do lunch!” Simply gross.
@jhmejia Says:
Kind of sad, my parents think the same way and aren’t going to my wedding because it’s between two men…
It’s kinda sad but.. I guess that’s how it is …
@CreativeYousername Says:
Sincere question, where does the Bible say that living together is a sin?
@josh.7.3 Says:
Props to Mr. Turek for being able to answer such a long winded question.
@Jenni_Sofia Says:
Who cares what 2 people do together as long as nobody gets hurt. Why should others get to do the decisions for them, shouldn't they be in control of their lives and not you?
@MaxCarroll Says:
Great video
@nothingbutthetruth613 Says:
Why in the world would you not go to this wedding? They are doing exactly what they are supposed to do by getting married. Your actions seem to indicate you want them to continue to live together in sin. This makes no sense. If you won't go to their wedding for shacking up, you similarly shouldn't go if they steal or lie too. Same sex marriage I understand but now they are doing just what they are supposed to. The whole question and answer are both ridiculous.
@Gerardo-dt8xf Says:
I have a question.. so my dad is Catholic and my step mom converted to catholicism for him no doubt.. I am Christian anyways I am attending the baptism of my little sister and brother in a Catholic church... They're of course young idk what to do or say should I correct them down the line or stay silent idk I am still attending though.
@syphwarrior Says:
Excellent response!
@rolandwatts3218 Says:
It appears that some Christians think they are sinless and so attending the wedding of a couple who had been living in sin is not an option, because those Christians do not sin.
No wonder some folk find that, on leaving the faith, they are no longer in bondage. In bondage to fear in this case. Fear of upsetting God and so having to monitor every thought and action, just in case.
Here is a tip. Maybe the young fellow's friends are likely to be much more gracious if the situation is reversed. Even as atheists I suspect they would attend his wedding knowing that he's a theist? People often find when they abandon conservative or fundamentalist Christianity, that they can be genuinely loving to other people in ways they had not known as believers.
The fact that the - "Should I attend the wedding?" - question is even discussed, shows how this can be so.
Christians need atheists and other non Christian theists to show them how to live graciously and ethically. If God exists and he cannot appreciate that a person might want to do the right thing by other friends, then may I suggest that those Christians find another God? There are plenty around.
@marksandsmith6778 Says:
What if it is 2 men?
I'm kidding.
I know what you bigots think.
@jordanmeyers2353 Says:
One thing I've never understood is that when you see people getting"married" in the bible, you never really see any wedding or anything like that. For instance Isaac and Rebekah. There was no big ceremony. It says they knew each other and in essence became one. I don't understand how a marriage ceremony officially makes you husband and wife because I don't really see any scripture in the Bible that says that.
@rockzalt Says:
Reminds me of some rabbinical discussions about, can you help a gentile whose life is in danger on the Sabbath? It's possible with 2000 yr old writing, to become so heavenly minded that a person is of no earthly good. This explains why Frank is here. To update numerous modern Christians to avoid unreasonable conclusions about the scriptures.
@tartardealer7859 Says:
Im confused as to why living together before marriage is a problem, living together doesnt equal premarital sex, is there something im missing here?
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