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On Today's Episode:
What version of success are you aiming for? Are you aiming for the rich life that looks flashy on the outside but broke and falling apart on the inside? Do the people that most inspire you have overnight success and hidden struggles or do they have a trail of lessons they share for you to learn from?
Mel Robbins is the queen of real! She has shared her struggles openly and unapologetically with the intention of helping someone out there experiencing real sh*t that needs to see what's possible when you learn to struggle well, be resilient, and take the lessons life keeps handing you.
Like her previous episodes on Impact Theory, Mel Robbins is giving you the real deal of what a messy authentic journey to success looks like from the inside out and from the bottom up. Key takeaways from this episode you can't miss is becoming a student of whatever it is you want to become. Study and master the experiences your decisions create and find ways to transform those lessons into unstoppable success.
'Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.' Winston Churchill
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Mel Robbins
0:12 | 3 Habits for Success
17:16 | Align Action for Success
37:19 | Reframe the Painful Lessons
44:50 | Mel's Major Breakthrough
1:03:12 | Transformational Therapies
1:29:46 | Frame of Reference & Beliefs
QUOTES:
'That's the most important thing about advice, is everybody's looking for the silver bullet when in fact it's got to work for you.' [8:02]
'Your dreams, your business, deserves the first 10 minutes of the morning.' [12:13]
'Successful people act before they feel ready, they act like the person they want to be instead of the person they feel like today…' [14:23]
'Oftentimes when the dream is such a call, the excuses match the desire for it.' [17:01]
'Through your actions and attitude you can create anything you f*cking want.' [20:42]
'...I needed to be honest with myself that there are things that I have as natural talent and skills, [...] but I also have major weaknesses that I got to get under control, so that I don't derail possible success and fulfillment...' [27:05]
'When I said I want to remove everything that creates this sort of real friction inside me, of course what rises to the surface isn't calm and peace, it's everything that's broken.' [1:11:01]
'Everybody is capable of change, period.' [1:34:36]
'Most of the sh*t that we react to is some sort of response to a past experience.' [1:38:07]
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@tyffanihinson6775 Says:
To the points made during the frame of reference versus programmed beliefs conversation I’ll add this. I believe that both of you made great points on each side of the discussion however I think the biggest point that lies in between is that if your frame of reference is distorted yes it is your responsibility to change it, HOWEVER if you do not realized it is distorted you cannot even begin to change what you do not know is broken. As well as what Mel mentions, there is so much evidence to support the programming you have lived an entire lifetime in and until something comes along to change the belief, a phenomenon, a life changing event, then you will not. However I do agree with Tom’s points about frame of reference because when you reach the point of realizing you have been programmed to believe some things that are responsible for your reality, you have to change it. It is your responsibility to as he says, “no matter how the deck is stacked, you must learn to play better.” But I do think he must take a moment to realize that programming isn’t just “broken” because you change your frame of reference. This is something many different types of people face, especially myself being a black person in America, I’ve faced the same issues. Learning that we have broken programs and even when the world provides evidence of it over and over again, that this is a hard barrier to break and takes the same amount of years that it took to install the program, it will take the same amount of time to uninstall as well. Frame of reference although powerful, will not fix the issue alone, as it is multilayered and often paired with tough intersectionality for many individuals. However, great conversation overall guys.
@timothy790110 Says:
5:00 such a ridiculous excuse. " I must be missing the neurochemistry for waking up." yea Tom, your brain is so special. absolute bs. like a fat person blaming hormons, completely unsubstantiated. and the backwards cap? come on now. The reason this dildo feels like shit in the mornings is bc he "sleeps under the blanket" (also something that makes him "special", he loves feeling special!) and is inhaling his own carbon dioxide all fn night amd because hes got a fn BOOK running his ear all night. Might THAT haves something to do with it Tom?! For someone whos supposedly so intelligent, hes doing some stupid fn stuff when sleeping. Im surprised he doesn't sleep tucked up inside his own arse, hes up there most of the day anyway.
@DJSTOEK Says:
❤❤
@mirandaoliver-ul5yi Says:
You are not a child anymore you are adults now
@selma4705 Says:
Mel and Tom, you are together are so sweet. So peaceful to listen to you. Thanks.
@drjbone Says:
OMG. Thank you @Tom and @Mel - this resonated so very deeply. I commit, to launching some things that I've held in the hopper with the feeling of not being enough, and not being ready. Thank you for modeling , and inspiring me to go for it. #LoveU #ThankU
@ancientmeww Says:
These interviews are so inspiring. Thank you for your time sir. ❤
@shelbysteiger6821 Says:
Hey there! 🎉 Exciting news to share - I've just applied to not one, but TWO openings at your amazing company! 🚀 While I may not have all the experience listed, I'm a fast learner and genuinely passionate about your mission. I firmly believe I'd be a valuable asset to your team if given the opportunity to interview. 🌟 So, fingers crossed, and let's make this happen! 💪
@johnzeegler8641 Says:
This is what happens when two great minds come together. 😊
@kalicharankhetwal Says:
@Tom: when you mention 9:42 mins ( remaining in bed before coming out of it), is this a random number that you spoke of or any intention or secret behind this time?
@Owlsworthy Says:
Tom: MF Ti/Se CP/B(S) He can't get out of bed because he's sleep last 👀
Objective Personality
@SamSung-rv9rm Says:
I can help people heal without any substance that alters the mind. I m a firm believer in God s gifts
@SamSung-rv9rm Says:
Mel that makes sense on trauma
@SamSung-rv9rm Says:
Mel you are amazing and I can help a lot as I have gifts to connect with the innerchild and much more. I m creating a conversation to see what value I can add as you give a lot
@SamSung-rv9rm Says:
I agree with Tom. I look for my lessons
@SamSung-rv9rm Says:
All my accounts follow Tom
@SamSung-rv9rm Says:
I am like Mel. I don't know how to market. I wonder how to use all these platforms to make my gift of healing available to the world?
@sajjadhamadani6303 Says:
Dear Mel, love the 5 seconds rule. I works.
@Ctozzy95 Says:
Doing drugs to make your marriage work is wild 😭😭😭
@ricknico2577 Says:
Wow u actually interview a women 👏👏👏
@CarsR4Fun Says:
I am very shocked to hear these 2 have trouble getting up on a morning. I am very lazy and can never figure how to get up until I have to.
@corrinelewis1842 Says:
Amazing and more
@alrdye Says:
What a fanastic conversation. Mel's story is completely mesmerizing.
@janpenix8879 Says:
Yes, I have ptsd issues in the mornings. I had to come p with a morning ritual to get me up and alive. Fitness coach Earl Kapule recommended this to me and it changed my life. It's unique to each person.
@dianeblevins7878 Says:
I'm Highly mò👋 👋 👋 👋 👋
@tashamariezdenek Says:
Why does this feel like it's directed right at me.. I haven't started.. and I already have the equipment.. ugh...
@azureocean8 Says:
OMGosh, someone else who sleeps while listening to books!!! I learned to do this several years ago. I wake up and can't turn my brain off. Listening to something else lets my brain focus on the book rather than my thoughts and allows me to drift back to sleep.
@DeadbeatGamer Says:
5, 4, 3, 2, 1 BLAST OFF!!!
@angelamaciver2208 Says:
The look on Tom’s face at 1:21:04!😊❤
@lauraestes9304 Says:
Mosts narcicists seem to be incapable of change because they are actually happy the way they are .....as emotional vampires
@musiquefrique Says:
I didn’t want to stay for the whole video BUT since I learned soemthing SO valuable at 1:10 and saw how this could be game changing
@menarussell Says:
I love Mel Robbins!
@menarussell Says:
I'd be concerned about EMF exposure wearing headphones especially all night. Consider finding some that are low EMF plus wearing EMF protection clothing or an EMF blanket. :) Those things are on my list. I need to find the headphones to use for starting my channel, podcasts, etc.
@chriswuzhere91 Says:
Oh what I would do for a guided MDMA trip 😭
@JoycevandenBerg Says:
Love this interview! I resonate w Mel on almost everything! I’ve always felt blind optimism regardless of the chaos around me that I’m moving towards my dream destination. ❤❤❤
@SupremeLife99 Says:
Take away-
Act like what you want to become.
Study what you want to become. Jim Rohn said in 1981-82, if you wanna be wealthy study wealth. If you wanna be healthy study health. If you wanna be a leader study leadership.
@12OLDROCKER Says:
Just so inspiring🙏
@along9971 Says:
Great interview, don't know why they gave it this title
Rich Roll did the same thing
@stbam1965 Says:
Stop making videos
@rainbowtravelingyogi Says:
Love her, sooo many F-bombs though. 🤣
@nadydorcelus4647 Says:
Lady your mind is strong enough to deal with life’s problems you do not need dopey stuff
@nadydorcelus4647 Says:
In my opinion if my partner refuses to make time for me, I would not go see a counselor, it means you’re growing apart
@PULAG Says:
Key points: have Egyptian cotton sheets, 3 individual pairs of $500 earbuds, have Rich Roll's number for personal advice to get started, have great connections and already be rich. Oh this is gonna be easy af
@SamanthaSmikle Says:
I can’t with Tom really trying to discredit the fact that discrimination and rascism is real. I love the fact that Mel got it. And said that his experience also probably reinforced that the world doesn’t want him to succeed. The lesson should be in spite of that, you have to believe that it is. Not that it’s your prospective. NO discrimination is also real for black and brown people. Please remember and be sensitive to this when you go into these inner city communities you are trying to help.
@LaylaDSmith Says:
The Body Keeps the Score! -Read the book. :)
@ajayr2276 Says:
Sam Harris says the feelings of anxiety(s) is very similar to feelings of excitement. Finding the switch to gauge the feelings of excitement will do the trick.
@ajayr2276 Says:
I struggle with snoozing as well. The "You snooze You Lose" quote is usually the force that launches me like a rocket before I realize I'm awake.
@salardz Says:
I wondered, what pills they took in the therapy? that made them that high and take them that far back!!?
@mvp_health-n-beauty Says:
I can help her with the cat box ☺️ Potty / toilet training is AMAZING ❣️
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