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On Today's Episode:
When you haven't done enough hard things to earn your own respect it's easy to quit when things get hard. You start to feel lazy and unmotivated because you lack the grit and self-discipline to see anything through to the end.
Often we lack the motivation to do what success demands of us because we don't have an identity that aligns with the outcome we say we want. Our poor habits and inability to show up consistently to create the outcome and experience we say we want creates a greater distance between where we are and where we want to go.
Anthony Trucks started with an enormous gap between the 3 year old that entered the foster care system, the teenager they called 'Butterfingers,' and the NFL player turned motivational speaker, bestselling author, life coach and podcast host. He advocates the value of hard work and suffering that creates experiences, opportunities and outcomes that make it possible to build a new identity. He helps people learn and do what it takes to shift their identity.
In this episode, we're deep diving into 3 skills Anthony believes will help you avoid being lazy and learn to stay motivated and take action even when you don't think it's possible.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Anthony Trucks
0:08 | Create an Internal Structure
11:32 | Shift Your Identity
26:24 | Commit to Do What Is Hard
42:09 | Work in the Dark, Shine Brighter
55:53 | Rebuilding a Failed Marriage
QUOTES:
'I like the idea that perspective precedes enlightenment.' [1:33]
'It's interesting how people with the most idiotic views can frame them so eloquently now.' [3:40]
'People don't understand that you can entertain an idea without adopting it.' [10:37]
'I believed the fact that if I did nothing, then nothing would get better.' [15:19]
'I get the desire to want to feel good in your own skin, but the solution isn't to avoid the fact that you don't feel that great.' [19:15]
'One of the problems we have in society now is that we coddle kids and we rob them of their hardships.' [32:40]
'I craft a specific experience for myself because I have to experience something to rewire it.' [49:29]
Follow Anthony Trucks:
Website: https://anthonytrucks.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/anthonytrucks
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AnthonyTrucks
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anthonytrucks/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/anthonytrucks
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comment section, that is someone impersonating me!
@karolina2406 Says:
Awesome conversation! So many learnings. I loved the dynamic of this conversation where neither one of them were trying to dominate, but were willing to listen and mutually contribute ❤
@arsenioseslpodcast3143 Says:
Love Anthony. Doesn't need to come on this garbage, watered-down show
@calvinfatman7918 Says:
Ye's doing the rounds.
@DaVine0711 Says:
Just turned 50. Wish I had something like this to listen to when I was younger. Tom you are so easy to relate to. All your guest are just so unbelievable. I've learned so much about myself in such a short time. What I've learned is it important to surround yourself by like minded people. Thank you Tom 😊 have to catch up on some of your interviews.
@tg21857 Says:
To comment on the hardship section. What's wrong with that? What's wrong with struggling, what's wrong with pain and death? People can be so fearful of it but it's good. People are scared to talk about death but it's just part of the package. Be ok with it. Don't stop living because you might get hurt. Start living because you know you will die. Tom, not to tell you what to do but to challenge you. I really hope you can be courageous enough to have kids someday or to be a father in some aspect. Peoples find ways to be a father or mother in untraditional ways. Challenging and makes you grow in ways nothing else will. It's so fulfilling, society needs it. It's part of finding your place. Imagine dying without fulfilling that roll. Change your frame of reference. You would make a great father, a great leader/ teacher. And know your kids can handle it. They will work, they will grow and yeah suffer. It's ok to suffer.
@madolinereed8885 Says:
Is it "Principles for dealing with a changing world order"?
@scramblendan Says:
The take away for me was when you find yourself procrastinating explore the reasons why you don't want to do the task but then hold yourself accountable and get it done.
@richardgoodwin5533 Says:
You spoke of Mandela and guest brushed past it began to talk about a film 300. That was difficult to watch such lack of awareness. Nonetheless I really enjoyed the dialogue.
@esteshev2151 Says:
Tom just always loves making it about himself…let your guests shine!
@BnPac1 Says:
This is really one of the best interviews ever. I was still shocked thinking the best part was his father's skills but the end on how he worked on his marriage, the humility to forgive her and to move on in order to build something stronger. Amazing man.
@BnPac1 Says:
I think another way to title this video would be :"how to be to be a great parent" or "how to instill the sense of hardship and fulfillment in your kids" or "how to raise great responsible and fulfilled human beings"? Very enlightening. I would be sure to get back to this when I become a mother. One of the best interviews on this channel but they are all great tbh.
@bwadegetsbuckets9264 Says:
Tried to watch this, I really wanted to finish it but I got to lazy 😭
@Tommy53646 Says:
Awesome episode! Thanks Tom and Anthony. Cool how he mentioned Joyce Meyer, she would be an interesting cool person to have on an episode 😊
@juwaybhalla2683 Says:
Absolutely thought provoking, engaging, heartfelt dialogue, so many messages to parents, to partners, on marriage, on the important of hard work n going through hardships. Will definitely follow Anthony see where he takes his life with his children and his great partnerships.
Powerful to observe him forgive his wife and accept his role in the breakdown of his relationship and going on to find freedom in their marriage and equality where both embarked on doing what makes them happy individually and collectively.
@robertlaloggia5346 Says:
If Anthony's description of dark work doesn't hit you like a ton of bricks, check your pulse. You may not be alive. Dark work will ensure your success as a human more than any self-help tip or trick you'll ever learn.
@downbntout Says:
I've used these vids for chatter in the background for company, but this is the one that clicked. I think it was the sentence Anthony said, "If I do nothing, nothing gets better." So I'm not gonna quit, stay in the process.
@downbntout Says:
Why did ancient Rome stop all those orgies, you may ask? .... Jesus Christ would be my guess. In that day unwanted newborns would be taken into the woods out of earshot and abandoned, but the Christians went there, picked up the babies and took them into their families, adopted.
@lislcroft Says:
Allow your guest to talk…..rather than just talking at him in a way which seems like you’re aiming at educating him…..
@ksenijaturkovic9228 Says:
This interview is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now, thank you so much for publishing it. I am so impressed with Anthony, what an inspiration! I've been following Tom for a while and have a lot of respect for his work. Kudos!!!
@Ilovemelon12 Says:
This popped up 😅
@marshaychianti Says:
This interview is powerful asf! Wow taking my parenting style up a notch
@slimfbaby20081 Says:
This was great !!!!
@ShahZ Says:
Life is never meant to be perfect folks, but Anthony and Tom are the people showing us what we can get out of life. Time is limited, focus on what matters the most to you.
@SibzelChebst Says:
13:26 is false. Close to one-fifth of the prison population in the US is comprised of former foster children. This is bad, but it is not 75%, as Mr. Trucks states. Perhaps he stated it backwards... 75% of those in foster care will be in prison at some point?
@waynebeckford2354 Says:
Really great interview, I loved it great job Tom. I hot some great gems from this thanks. 🔥👌🏾
@aleenanoad9 Says:
I'm 24mins in and I'm nodding my head in agreement. I want to started a health coaching business but then I had a stressful event and put on 10kg, now I don't feel like showing up, like I don't look fit and healthy so why would anyone want to be coached by me. I'm refusing to continue with my business until I lose the wt.... trouble is its been 18 months and I'm still overwt and still not showing up for myself. Hence why I'm listening to your shows.
Thankyou
@localnoonenterprises Says:
When it comes to identity, is it an individual's choice to decide what kind of person they want to be? Does a person have the right to reject the idea of someone else trying to tell them how or who to be like? Isn't each person allowed to own and operate their own life the way they choose, without being made to live up to the standards of the people who came before them?
@wedsonolivia4103 Says:
“I have been in the trading game for decades and I am still standing. I have seen a lot of traders come and go. They have a system or a program that works in some specific environments and fails in others. In contrast, my broker's strategy is dynamic and ever-evolving, and that's what help's me.
@LiquidMystic Says:
If this episode can get me off the couch this Saturday evening, he’s worth listening to. But if I’m still sitting on my butt watching YouTube inspirational videos when this one is over, then this episode needs to be deleted because it’s just another yada yada soundtrack that’s adding to my lazy saturdays, sundays, Monday’s, tuesdays, wednesdays ….
@penthoy Says:
44:15 insert "My time as come" meme here
@JuicyVeg Says:
6:45 the phrase he's looking for is "harm reduction"
@tinaf600 Says:
This conversation it's so good and needed. I have a 15 year old son and I know he has had it pretty easy. He's had some personal struggles, but overall his life is pretty easy. I'm really praying to God to send a man into my life that will invest in my son.
His father and my husband won't. That's very hard to admit 😞
@SusanDeneeKnowYourCrazy Says:
Loved this conversation today. The realness that you both brought was authentic. Anthony’s down to earth Ness was refreshing.
@missourimadman2828 Says:
I 100% get this for my son's but what about daughters? Thoughts? As a man, I feel the men's side comes easier but to help my daughters I'm at a bit of a lose.
@kookoo4mike Says:
WOW, SO many mind-blowing points. 🤯🤯🤯 Trucks is a true MAN; hard working, good character, and forgiving. His story about his marriage was deep and immensely touching. Much respect for this man. Great interview. TY🙏🏻
@palimo3653 Says:
Tom needs to go back to introductions I really don’t know why he stopped. Really awkward as a viewer to just click on the video and see them already engaged in conversation. Maybe it works well for the podcast 🤷🏿♂️
@initialgc9115 Says:
He gives great advice up until the story of getting back with his ex-wife who refused to apologize for having an affair ? I’m sure he did it for the kids but my god bro have some self respect.
You can co-parent and be cordial for the children’s sake without taking her back lol. She doesn’t even let him teach certain values into the kids, so she’s still difficult, he said it himself.
Of course she wants to try it again, the guy she had an affair with kicked her to the curb.
I honestly think he needs to look in the mirror and face the fact that he’s just scared to be alone and didn’t want to lose his kids.
@MrTavaresD Says:
That response to his wife on why he wants his boys to go through hard things was brilliant. I'm definitely using that.
@TicklingLight Says:
Please do an interview or a video interviewing people that have totally changed or turn their lives around from 60 and up. How do we face our challenges and make the changes we need for these times at our age health and physical conditions. It's a whole different scenario starting over at 60 than it is at 30. That would be greatly appreciated
@mpm9420 Says:
I gave birth to 6 kids in 10 years, planned, w one man/husband. They started receiving an allowance for chores done at age 3. At age 4 they became responsible for paying for paying their library fines and for their library card. Each year the responsibilities & rewards increased. Recently my oldest (34yo) forgave me for (shrug) because we were sooo poor. I had to tell her. We weren’t poor. I was making it hard on them to the limit they could bear, to make them strong.
@professormoriarty6875 Says:
It's easy!
Have goals
Make plans to reach your goals.
Get up in the morning and do what you have to do to get there - even if you don't feel like it.
@Priya-rf7ov Says:
Thank you Tom. I'm life is better because of your channel.
@ronnyr1989 Says:
invite Andrew Tate please
@LionLambWithStephen Says:
Trucks!!
@susangitau6359 Says:
"Dark work" l love that.
@Jayanth_0406 Says:
hey Tom bring the TopG
@KingKobra-tt9nl Says:
Damm bro you should of never taken that female back not worth it no matter what she told you smh.
@iworkout8137 Says:
Your only really helping people if you help them help themselves alot of what we call help is enabling
@dearkappy Says:
35:14 laughing at how relatable tom's story is. Looking back, the things my mum let me do make me wonder. She let me cook by myself. I was frying, baking and climbing on surfaces to reach the stove and freezer. There was a particular time i was obsessed with wiring 2 pin electric plugs into 3 pins just because i saw her do it once. All that dangerous stuff didn't seem to bother her, she only stopped me when i began cutting up most of my clothes to try pinterest hacks 😄
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