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What is going on in the dating world?!
I hope you're ready to expose the groundbreaking shift in men's behavior over the last decade. Joining me today is William Costello, an expert on behavioral patterns, writer, researcher, and PhD student at the Evolutionary Psych Lab who will shed light on the rising recklessness, commitment-phobia among young men, and the emerging 'mating crisis'.
I realize that this is going to be an eye-opening episode for some of you as we explore the mysterious 'Incel' community - an internet-born phenomenon that's stirring up quite a conversation. You'll gain unique insights into its psychological dynamics and self-perceptions, unveiling hidden corners of the online world.
This episode is more than just a conversation; it's a revelation of societal shifts that are shaping our world. Whether you're curious about behavioral changes or want to understand the underlying reasons, this episode will feed your curiosity and provide valuable insights.
So, why wait? Hit that play button, sit back, and let's unpack this crisis together.
QUOTES:
'For women I think that's very important, is that this boss b*tch energy, paper chasing throughout your twenties is running up against a ticking clock that people are reluctant to talk about because it's seen as quite sexist to highlight.'
'You can complain about the world and wish it were different but you're not going to slow women down now.'
'Both sexes could do better to understand and engage in better cross-sex mind-reading.'
'Sex is a far more riskier endeavor for women'
'Where you have massive biological differences between the sexes, we should expect some psychological differences underpinning them.'
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@agabrielhegartygaby9203 Says:
Why does this matter? Men are obsessed with sex. Women not so much. If you are a total pig forget sex
@agabrielhegartygaby9203 Says:
If a man is a total jerk who feels entitled to access to women's bodies lack of consent notwithstanding - is for some reason a TOTAL FUCKING TURNOFF FOR WOMEN. Women can be quite happy without sex because we have less testosterone.....
@lindastormonth4764 Says:
I wanted this conversation to continue taking into account the latest developments with Trump and the attacks on women.
@Smlmusic2650 Says:
Incredibly rich and successful men wonder why most men don't have success with women....
Tom u know u can trade ur wife in for a new one and sitll have kids :)
@infobeanz2851 Says:
Their is no gender pay gap
@rene-rv6pp Says:
The sex is dissappearing. Allready it has in part
Now woman have changed the sense of the provider man who brings food to the able for a provider who bring luxurious unnecessary stuff
When before the man could decide when to make sex then it was aboundat. But now is legally the woman who decides when. And that's all most never
@henryjumbohead5391 Says:
Tom, I love the content. Here I was thinking this topic wouldn’t interest me at all and I’m now ignoring my family hiding away upstairs listening to this entire podcast.
@maritahartmann591 Says:
Walt Disney ... Ummm founded by pedophiles. Not sure if you want to have Disney be your #goal.
@maritahartmann591 Says:
Tom. You're becoming a great thinker. I've appreciated your podcasts more and more over the last year.
Love it.
@sharonrossow5423 Says:
Men need to start marrying young, start families. Don’t wait until you’re established in your career. Marrying young means both the man and women are more flexible and less set in their ways. Women aren’t too selective when they’re younger. Most men will grow to be average Joe’s and not millionaires. So, I stand by getting married when both men and women are 19-22. Those marriages actually last longer.
@RichardHartl Says:
Male loneliness is an epidemic, something needs to be done about this
@francesbernard2445 Says:
The very title of above video makes sex sound only like something men should have the right to get while on their way to the grocery store too. I am not interested in watching your video or learning from you how to, "Restart Your Life." A lot of young women today are having less sex too. Seems to me that rising political tensions making young people wonder what the fate of their biological children or step children being born today is going to be in the near future might be a factor in that kind of personal decision while young.
@juanortiz4331 Says:
I have been having more sex than I have ever had, so this doesn't apply to me, I guess 😊
@cdtthomas27 Says:
Tom is a lame netd
@davesmith5939 Says:
i want to see this guy with the smug “i know everything “ attitude knowing almost fuck all watch this video back after his divorce rape
@davesmith5939 Says:
being a member of the black pill community, i can tell you we are very and significantly more attractive than the general population. look up astin dunham. incel is not being able to date anyone because they are not attractive, this dude has very much taken the cool aid
@johnelway9879 Says:
Dude who doesn’t want to have kids lecturing people on parenting…the state of the world today
@DanJ888 Says:
Can't get sex? Or can't get the type of sex we want? I'm sure most men can get sex, depending how low you are willing to go. Is sex with a average or below average woman worth it? I actually think about 80% of woman aren't worth it as well, so this 80% number seems correct.
@dang328 Says:
The host of this show is clearly a geek
@erediea847 Says:
Single and swiping! Wow
@draighodge6039 Says:
As long as we collectively treat sex as a recreational sport, the incel phenomena will only grow. Women giving sex away to whomever they fancy that day substantially devalues the activity and trains them like Pavlov's dog to respond only one way to desirable men. 80% of women chase 20% of men and deem the other 80% of men to be unworthy of investigation.
Changing divorce laws to end No Fault Divorce back to At Fault Divorce will help to reassure men that marriage isn't a losing proposition. Correcting Title IV's prejudice in favor of women in custody cases will also help restore marriage as a desirable goal. Convincing women to practice celibacy until marriage is the challenge. Until they realize that tingles are no substitute for having a reliable, faithful man there is little men can do. We can't all become taller than 6', we can't all make six figures, we can't all have careers that tickle female vanity, we can't all have six packs... and if we could do all that, then women would find another irrational requirement.
MGTOW is the rational response to irrational demands.
@LocomotiveThought Says:
Why would I want a child in this environment. They'll be manipulated, indoctrinated, sexualized & mentally handicapped. No thanks, I'm protecting my offspring from public education.
@adamannala5498 Says:
This advice really sucks. Everyone can’t be at the top of society, therefore none of what’s discussed is a solution to the problem. They made women more masculine and feminizing men has been the agenda of society. This is what it is now. Genie is out of the bottle.
@adamannala5498 Says:
I would imagine that I would be considered not eligible. I’m reasonably employed but I’m not killing it, so I guess I’m screwed.
@lepepene9679 Says:
Superficial hook-ups don't even compare to the sex between a man and a woman who have kids together, have been married for years, and still find each other sexually attractive.
Empty encounters with condoms or a quick pill.
Then you see those promiscuous, showy friends envying Joe and Nancy, a normal neighborhood couple with a van and two kids.
The gym bros who brag about their weekend hookups actually have less sex than John the plumber, who's with his wife three times a week.
The gym bro is too worried about showing his junk to a new girl, wondering what she'll think, trying to impress her. An hour of superficial sex and she doesn't even finish. It's all showy, gym-like moves.
Meanwhile, Joe gives it to his wife five times, and they have to close the windows so the neighbors don't hear her moaning.
And then, it's a cup of coffee or a Coke and off to work.
Happy, healthy kids playing football and smothering their mom with kisses.
While the gym bro and the showy psychologist are left anxious and restless because they have no plans for the weekend, feeling emptier with each passing year.
@thantalus77 Says:
No figures?
@trydowave Says:
What about the presence of phthalates in the environment that can enter the body via ingestion, inhalation and absorption through the skin? Theres no place on earth you can escape from it and its linked to a huge drop in testosterone and sperm count in the last century. Around 1% a year. In 50 years thats half! Now think about how that hormone effects your personality; not just for the desire for procreation but also, drive. It was mentioned in this video that men have more desire to push through the disgust phase. What if that urge is diminished? My final take is this. You can read all the books on stoicism you like; quote jordan peterson and Nietzsche until your blue in the face, but, what if, something in the actual machinery was broken?! If this is the case, at this point youre just flogging a dead horse. Its a bit like filling up your sports car with lemonade and pounding on the sterring wheel and screaming in frustration as to why it wont go.
@nedflanders190 Says:
I hosted swinger parties in the 90s and they were off the hook. Now men need a month of coddling to get semi errect and women are as dry as nuns on strike.
@gloriettapatrona6595 Says:
Men can’t get sex because they’ve forgotten how to court her, and forgotten the word “romance”. The modern man believes that women go on a date for the pleasure of HIS company. He should be treating her like a date is for the pleasure of HER company.
@gloriettapatrona6595 Says:
When „relationship“ replaced „romance“, women bowed out. Men’s idea of courting became, „Hi, I’m Bill. Wanna fuck?“ Because of birth control, women thought something was better than nothing, and compromised. The men became lazy, and the women got burned out. That’s why there’s a stand-off.
@jillianminton8506 Says:
Patriarchy is removing them from the dating pool as it’s not natural . Men need to know what their purpose is w/out including women
@jillianminton8506 Says:
Patriarchy is removing them from the dating pool as it’s not natural .
@laneo Says:
Men can look to other men to be more than friends.
@monkeybalconey Says:
Cus there wankimg off to porn its easier for them rather than having the balls to fo out dateing
@CapAnson12345 Says:
Women have exactly as much sex as they want to have. Give or take. Men have exactly as much sex as they CAN. At least at a certain age. It's a frustrating inequality.
@bernardmolloy6241 Says:
To get sex, go with the pretty fat girls.
The slim girls are far too much work.
@leahwilliams9333 Says:
Omg dude you just told your wife she's not the prettiest girl in the world. Don't be THIS honest.
@SsDiBoi Says:
$$$$$$
@user-hx9cv3uv7n Says:
Depopulation is the goal from the ruling class. Its working great. We are puppets. Control the ladies control the birth rate.
@kamuimac Says:
most of those rejections are for very good reason . even simplest ones - lets take for example women - they usualy spend hours deciding what pictures to use on those apps , or with their description - most incels take 1 bad / ,mediocre picture in like toilet or in elevator and then are surpised most women reject them . not even speaking about other factors like being failure irl with their carrer or having their body in weak / bad shape. ofc those women reject them .
@laneo Says:
Men are also finding other men to meet their needs.
@tommytayloriv Says:
The average cost of a second date in NYC or DC is $200, and you know who is paying.
@cindymcmillan609 Says:
It’s tripled because social media has made women feel worthless and replaceable and are not willing to put their hearts out to be broken. As a result, no sex.
@mitzitakes522 Says:
Men have forgotten about courtship. Sex is not the end goal. It is the icing on the cake.
@captainsunbear5472 Says:
of course there is bad pizza, if you are lactose intolerant like me, you can't have pizza at all.
@Tamar-sz8ox Says:
A lot of people are not into hook up culture because there are too many crazy people out there
Social media and apps have made dating like an instacart for humans so very sad
@kmg0682 Says:
28:00 women always want to date their boss lol. Bikram yoga was a big me2, because of jealousy. Bikram is proof that status is king 🤴.
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