Personal fulfillment HAS NOTHING, NOTHING to do with .. "group", "community".
@yohan9747 Says:
I love Robert and I love Tom but they are wrong. The issue is not in spending too much time inside ourselves or being too absorbed by our own thoughts. The problem is not listening to the 6 yo child in us. The problem is ignoring this child and resuming whatever life we have built. Built not on love and passion but on suffering and people's expectations. I'm very much aligned with the IFS system by Dick Schwartz. This being said, thank you Robert and Tom to give us very well researched opinion on how best to live our life's. Your work has monumentally helped me.
@Hellooooooo989 Says:
Sounds like the “advice” of an avoidant attachment pattern at risk for a panic attack. The me generation experienced more stay at home mothers in a reality where a high school diploma could get a decent job to support a one income household. This wasn’t the reality of millennial and Z childhoods. And most importantly, it wasn’t the reality we experienced during early childhood. Thus, it’s not just a theory to think insecure attachment creates adult attachment issues; MRIs demonstrate a noticeable impact on our HPA axis and amygdala.
@davjdprjce Says:
unwatchable host needs to realize his role is to speak as little as possible and never interrupt
@mikeflair6800 Says:
Mine is financial investing / wealth creation. It is exciting and rewarding to me. I am 70 now. It has economically sustained me and others (10), and the 'longer I live', the more wealth I expect to attain. It is important to me (my purpose) to provide even after my death. I am meaningful, I am important, I am emphatic. That is all I need to keep my hope and health going. Action versus talk for me. FYI - I am not spoiling, but preparing for the 'huge cost of living in America' today and going forward. Might as well have the stock market help me, and my heirs...that is my plan, until the end.
@dr.badass702 Says:
Making art is its own reward. Selfish, I guess, but many artists are fulfilled painting or writing in isolation - it’s a personality type, I think. If you think too much about making your art “serve the greater good”, I think you end up creating moralistic crap, by and large
@swisscheese412 Says:
I'm Happy to be myself. I Don't want to be a social autist
@ODENMUSICCHANNEL Says:
“If I could snap my fingers, I’d be Elon Musk”. What a sad sentence.
@D8099. Says:
Let’s play how to spot the narcissist😂. They start by asking a question then interrupt you answering only to fill in the blank themselves. In other words they don’t want to hear you they want to hear themselves
@cfamick Says:
Imagine going to a doctor and hearing "You have diabetes."
You: "Okay, what am I supposed to do about that?"
Him: "You're not supposed to do anything."
You: "How do other people treat diabetes?"
Him: "Don't compare yourself to other people."
You: ......
Him: "You're caught in a spiral of diabetes!"
That's been my experience with therapy.
@motorcyclegordy2078 Says:
Yeah, first time listening. Not a fan of Tom
@Jindy2 Says:
These guys absolutely nail it!
@andre1987eph Says:
Therapy is good for depression and anxiety.
@vickyallen4566 Says:
The interviewer loves to hear himself talk. opposite of Joe Rogan. And FYI, the Bible has been saying all this truth for thousands of years. Just accept it: Jesus was God. The rest makes sense after admitting that. But no, you don't want to submit to a Creator God, so you "intellectuals" will keep contradicting, then agreeing with each other over the decades.
@user-cc6jz7vn9f Says:
Im confused who is the interviewer between Tom and Robert 🤔?
@bradrandel1408 Says:
Yeah, this host is a tool. I cannot watch him. I like his guest, interrupting what a brilliantly, humble man that he is interviewing.
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@GP-lg6np Says:
what Greene discusses is actually what is generally taught in the addiction fellowships (e.g, AA, NA, et al)
@eyob4794 Says:
3:48 , psychiatric industry is based around this & is the main reason why it doesn’t work & never will. Grifting industry
@SeekerAppleSwordSerpent Says:
Why does Bilyo have so many subscribers.
@rumpoh8039 Says:
PHYSIOTHERAPY HAS NO BASIS IN HEALTHCARE
IT IS A MADE UP SOLUTION TO INJURY.
@DurtyCardiologist Says:
God....Bilyeu is so fkn annoying
@leanderthal2689 Says:
Elon musk is a pure grifter.
His greatest gift is convincing M0R0NS that he's not a total narcissistic loser.
@korozsitamas Says:
Inspired by the conversation: Fulfillment = (Difficulty+Passion−Energy Drain) × Skill Development × Contribution to Self and Others
@korozsitamas Says:
Tom Bilyeu was surprised about talk therapy's ineffectiveness, but Tony Robbins in his book "Unlimited Power" actually says the same: that reliving negative emotions puts us into an unresourceful state, which is counter-productive. I was surprised about this as well.
@muddyriverdogz Says:
Therapy sucks for men because if you need therapy your not a Man !
@WaldorfStatler Says:
Agree. 63 YO, lived with depressions and borderline all my life. The victim perpective ties one up and has no meaning to me, maybe it feels fine for the therapist being ”nice” for its own sake..?
@lukeserrano62 Says:
Ikigai. It’s not a new concept.
@user-wy6lb7po1n Says:
So, A+B+C+D+E= F got it, thx Tom!
@jgboys1 Says:
This is true. I took a job in 1981 right out High School going into Telecommunications field. Before I took the job I didn’t know how to do anything. I’ve been doing it now for 43 years and I enjoy it and like helping people at work socializing with my fellow co workers. I am 61 years old now and I’m starting to think of retirement. I have about another 6 years to go but I am not sure how I am going to feel once I do retire.
@Tninja17 Says:
I get how people hate him talking too much on his podcasts and it's annoying. The way I see it though is Tom seems like an introspective guy and he processes his intuition outwards, so his interviewee can comment on it. He has spent long hours talking to many different smart people, and as he speaks about his experience and take on things, we can see that he's trying to wrestle and align his values with what everyone has to say by projecting it out.
@jb9433 Says:
Bilyeu went from a good interviewer to an obnoxious dick overnight.
@DihelsonMendonca Says:
💥 In life, the ultimate achievement, is the inner discovery of the self transcendent being, which is the fountain of all happiness and truth. Nothing that you achieve externally will give you everlasting joy. There's nothing to accomplish, but to live a life in which you discover what you really are. And when you remain in that state of consciousness, your joy is shared among others. You become a bright beacon to the world. ❤
@Maria-qn6fe Says:
Pride is the most tyrannical feeling for humanity,, release all those bad feelings to the Creator because you do not need them. He is a great God and can handle them all. Thank you Jesús
@goodvibesjumper Says:
Bro watched for 3 minutes and you interrupted Robert several times
@getenlightened Says:
Musk isn't above you. And I betcha you're a much happier person. Thanks for keepin' it real.
@rabidpeanut3703 Says:
I have to agree with the guest this time. I do enjoy that flow and though my art might not ever grace museums, it makes no difference to me because it serves a wonderful purpose of intellectual exercise for myself. And I do feel that a lot of artists today get away from that. But I don't expect anything. To quote Mark Rothco, to illustrate my point."
"When I was a younger man, art was a lonely thing. No galleries, no collectors, no critics, no money. Yet, it was a golden age, for we all had nothing to lose and a vision to gain. Today it is not quite the same. It is a time of tons of verbiage, activity, consumption. Which condition is better for the world at large I shall not venture to discuss. But I do know, that many of those who are driven to this life are desperately searching for those pockets of silence where we can root and grow. We must all hope we find them."
@kusali11 Says:
RG clearly meditates.
@chadlehman2599 Says:
Tom gets his guests talking....then interrupts and goes on a monologue. ????
@acfitweightloss Says:
why do hosts always act so weird when Robert Greene comes on
@NJ752 Says:
Tom … when are you bringing Elon Musk ?
@Elena14999 Says:
Thanks a lot, you should read a book of one talented businessman, who’s name is Artur Grandi, coz his book was like a great therapy for me, after which I’m full of positive thoughts and hopes! Glad I noticed it on Amazon and waiting now for his created formula become our reality!
@IAmTheEggMan111 Says:
4:05 yes that’s why talk therapy is useless for most men. “So how do you feel about that?” I’d rather get a root canal than be subjected to weeks of naval gazing like that
@laprimaverrra Says:
Here's my take on Tom's formula: pursuing and reaching a goal, especially one that you perceive as difficult but worthwhile, triggers the 'happy' hormone dopamine, but the caveat is that it's a game of diminishing returns and afterwards you need a bigger goal to feel the same way again. Getting respect produces a burst of serotonin, although the degree to which someone needs external validation of their skills and achievements depends on their personality type and how much value they place on external versus internal validation. Some people trust their own perception of their self-worth (negative or positive) over others' opinions, for various psychological reasons. There may sometimes be a link to the release of oxytocin, which is triggered when someone feels a social connection with the group (which the human brain may process as 'strength in numbers' and improved odds of survival). But there is no objective unit to measure 'fulfilment' in different people, so I think it just comes down to the subjective experience of 'happy chemicals' at a point in time.
Here's a guest suggestion: Loretta Graziano Breuning, author of "Habits of a Happy Brain".
@Corn_DOG Says:
So I should be more like my grandfather who was a functional alcoholic and died in his 50s? He never complained he just quietly killed himself... if no one speaks up nothing is fixed
@clinicalconsultingcenters3240 Says:
Tom, I am surprised that you invited this person to your show. I believe he is a weak man, totally self absorbed whose verbosity is potentially harmful to people.
@mans_purpose_project Says:
Totally agree with Robert Greene on therapy. I grew more through working out and boxing for 3 months than 10+ years of therapy talking about abuse. Putting the anger of missed opportunities to the bag did more for me than being absorbed talking about my problems in therapy.
@NicholasMGlasson Says:
If you spend all your time convincing yourself you are good, you will miss the time you could have spent becoming good at whatever craft, art or pursuit, such is the danger of desire.
@NJ752 Says:
I like Tom sharing his insights about his observation and experience
@Gettingitreal Says:
We are self-absorbed when we need belonging.
@jrthrash0525 Says:
God/Perfect Love is the answer and you cannot find it on this earth in the flesh
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