Big goals require DISCIPLINE. By it's very nature, discipline requires you to do hard things - and that is a skill you can LEARN. I'm teaching my process to build Ironclad Discipline in a new workshop - you can register at https://discipline.impacttheory.com/
Tom often reminds us that the only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself when you're by yourself. Too often, however, we get caught up and focused on what others are thinking about what we said, what we did, what we posted, and how we do anything. The key to not caring what others think is to start with being focused on how you feel about yourself. Experiencing pain and trauma is something we all go through at some level. When you understand that assigning meaning and significance to these situations is your choice, it gets a little easier to care less and less about other people. The experts included here explain why gaining control and awareness of yourself makes space for you respond and not give a f*ck.
What's F*cking You Up with Mark Manson: https://youtu.be/5m81Qsw0gLw
Uncover What's Holding You Back with Gary John Bishop: https://youtu.be/C833bBczhUg
Failures Are Just Opportunities to Learn with Marie Forleo: https://youtu.be/kk5NTcwbdBE
Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind with Nicole LePera: https://youtu.be/MvYMG1cZGNw
Become Who We Are with Gabor Mate: https://youtu.be/c2cJb1QeMIQ
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Not Giving A F*ck
0:37 | Develop Self-Awareness
5:51 | How Childhood Patterns Affect You
9:34 | Overcome Your Anger
15:16 | Change Your Perspective
25:27 | Change the Narrative
31:09 | Make Your Own Decisions
QUOTES:
'If you want to change how you feel about yourself, you have to start peeling back those layers of narrative, and start getting down into the deepest, earliest ones, because those are often the most impactful and influential.' Mark Manson [3:19]
'When somebody talks, they're in fact speaking from the world that they're in.' Gary John Bishop [4:25]
'The reasons why childhood traumas are so debilitating for people is that essentially, these extremely painful experiences occur to our feeling brains, while our thinking brains are still undeveloped.' Mark Manson [10:32]
'Perspective is a word that gets thrown around a lot [...] it's such a thin word, to deal with this really, kind of voluminous thing.' Gary John Bishop [16:43]
'That's the problem. People spend their adult life overcoming a truth that they made up.' Gary John Bishop [18:29]
'If you can catch yourself arguing with reality in the moment and realize that's not a wise thing to do, you can then back yourself up' Marie Forleo [19:55]
'You want to be tethered to reality, but also understand that you [...] never know for certain who you actually are.' Mark Manson [24:24]
'We actually can create ourselves, we can create our future by beginning to make new choices now.' Marie Forleo [32:40]
'if you're not improving yourself, for the right reasons, you could be damaging yourself' Mark Manson [32:51]
Follow Mark Manson: https://markmanson.net/
Follow Gary John Bishop: https://garyjohnbishop.com/
Follow Marie Forleo: https://www.marieforleo.com/
Follow Nicole LePera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/
Follow Gabor Mate: https://drgabormate.com/
