0:36 What's the most effective of overcoming self-deception?
9:15 As a woman I have fantasies about bad boys. Is this something I need to mature out of or realize in my sex life in different ways?
14:21 What did I teach my children about sex? Is there a healthy middle ground for them without being naively celibate or damagingly promiscuous, and how did you communicate that?
21:26 As it pertains to beauty standards, do you think that progressive social pressure can overcome what appears to be our ingrained attraction to, for example, physical markers for biological health?
28:15 I am worried I will never find love. What do I do?
30:32 I'm having a hard time discipling myself. I particularly struggle to establish a schedule. How did you make a schedule so that many of your highest goals can be attained? I know that you have talked about making a schedule on many occasions, but I would like a look inside your schedule from a time that you think was your prime.
40:24 How do I know if I'm a good or a bad person? I struggle with viewing myself as a good human being who deserves good things in return even though I try my best to be decent and add light into this world in a multitude of ways. What are some steps to take in order to become better than the person I was in the past?
45:55 I'm 40 but I feel like a child watching everyone around me get older and die. So I'm homesick for the past instead of accepting the terrifying present. How can I stop mourning the past?
49:41 What's your advice to someone who took your "Understand Myself" test and scored 0 on agreeableness, but still recognizes the need to collaborate with many people?
55:38 I'm 25. I had a drug problem when I was young in my late teens and early 20's. I stole money on multiple occasions. I don't even know who some of those people I stole from are and can't repay them. However, given the instances where I could apologize or repay I feel completely unable to; I'm too ashamed. This bothers me all of the time. I can't sleep or do anything. I really hate myself. I think that I'm a rotten person and don't know how to handle it. Do you have any advice for this?
1:00:58 Why do we need to contemplate our own malevolence? What if you get stuck in it? How do you move forward after becoming aware of it, especially if you have actually done something bad (not speaking of criminally here)
1:08:10 You spoke once about going into the deep to save your father but I never knew my father at all, so who is it that I am saving?
1:10:43 Does life have meaning without God? Can life be meaningful without God and without eternity?
1:14:29 As an art student, I wonder how to create a poetic piece deeply storied and metaphoric without becoming a piece of propaganda. I feel like trying too hard to create a meaningful and poetic piece often results in the creation of something rife with bias and ideology. However letting my unconscious take full control creates what seems like an empty and uninteresting piece. Is there a method to control that chaos without corrupting its meaning while still expressing it poetically? For the time being, I decided to concentrate on learning good technique.
1:18:54 Is there a way we can reach people who are controlled by ideology? If schools are bent on teaching CRT and other Marxist-inspired doctrines, how can we turn the tide?
1:21:13 I've cleaned my room and feel called to serve the greater community. What are some signs that you're ready to go into the world to serve?
1:22:23 In your last Q&A you said you decided to take the vaccine. My friends and I were surprised by this. Is it safer than I think?
@russellalfonso2962 Says:
Some deception may be behavioral rather than propositional
@russellalfonso2962 Says:
Read Fingerette about self deception
@russellalfonso2962 Says:
Get verification from those you trust and love
@jbullets5964 Says:
You answered so many questions I wasn't sure how to confront. Immensely grateful for you Jordan 🖤
@marksauck8481 Says:
I learned too late in my life the meaning of the phrase, “if you don’t know what you don’t know and that you don’t know that”…… the question is what happens with your life. This is something I’ve reflected on many times with my choices in my career. We wind up with regret. I found myself many times telling myself if I’d have known what I know now I would have done things differently. I’m convinced I would have been much happier with my life and my career. The worst choice was thinking I could do it all by myself and my talent. I later wished I’d have had a mentor. It’s something I should have looked for while in school, but my ego stopped that.
@roxyperson8328 Says:
How do you deal with your ability to sense the red flags but you don’t know how to describe it? Another words I have no proof but I know that person is evil. (They are in my family circle so I can’t just cut them out completely.)
@62pnpn Says:
Corporations want people to be unhappy with their current state..then they can sell them all the 'fixes'
@tienkepelzman3132 Says:
The Bible says you must pay back 7 times the stolen amount
@ladyfaye8248 Says:
I am busy working on how this advice works for 'self deception' induced by others (parents).
This was my own burden which proves very hard to lighten, though at sixty, I have mostly got a handle on it.
The self deception imposed from outside. Meant my life
@carolanderson2773 Says:
I thought this was about self deception, not sex.
@Dhw997 Says:
I constantly find myself re-watching your videos, I can't seem to stop taking 10 steps back every 5 steps forward. Maybe I'm missing a step along the way but thank you sir for sharing your knowledge for free.
@user-gc2xd5ym7j Says:
The internalising disorders felt so relateable!
@laurentvilodeau5434 Says:
thank you for confirming my instincts
@arafatabuhashish933 Says:
God ( ALLAH ) said in Quran :
"They [think to] deceive Allah and those who believe, but they deceive not except themselves and perceive [it] not."
And said in another place :
" He knows what is in the heavens and on earth; and He knows what ye conceal and what ye reveal: yea, Allah knows well the (secrets) of (all) hearts."
So as a muslim belive ,, i know that Allah my creater watching me ,, so i kept away for self deception ,, i have some step in islam lead to leave deception:
1- Education on virtuous morals and adherence to the provisions of Islam
2- Trusting in God and sensing His watch.
3- Be content with what has been provided.
4- Accompanying righteous people.
@karensilver8853 Says:
I am gettinng such a big kick out of this. He's just so easy on the mind from time to time. I can follow him into the intellectual depths--and have--but I've never heard him becoming a kind of advice columnist. He's good!!
@brucehutchinson9527 Says:
Thank you Jordan Peterson for taking the time and effort to answer individual questions.🌻
@baldbuffcanadian6828 Says:
I was censored again by the algorithm for being critical of the quacksine narrative. Doesn't offer immunity. Doesn't stop spread. "Threat" never proven to exist. Erosion of freedom makes Stalin look like an amateur. Disgusting.
@TheChoseOne7 Says:
43:53 this "acute awareness of our own faults" hit close to home. Especially when I pray before God for others, I alway ask for mercy and forgiveness for me first because of this accute awareness that sin still resides within me. Thank you, it helped me place this in the right and healthy perspective. God bless.
@sharonaldridge3332 Says:
Listening..all the way. There's something here and there to apply, and thank you.
@MaryHernandez-lq8kq Says:
Concerns are different than worry.
@AA-kt4jq Says:
What to do if you are high in openness and neuroticism? I can’t focus on a career nor move from the city where I live (37), single.
@tahah.babikir7698 Says:
Bro, it’s so nice to see a suggestion for your videos after a good cup of coffee..😅
@DJ-Brownie-UK Says:
My mantra is easy and very basic > Refrain from telling lies. Whom ever utters a falsehood (regardless if it is intended or not), then sub-conciously they lose all credabillity. The sub-conscious mind then starts nagging your conscious mind, but your sub-conscious mind is like a dog with a bone, it wont let it go, this can cause serious mental issues to a human who simply cannot handle the truth because of the sometimes a truth can be deeply painful and personally hard to accept - It makes us angry with ourselves for being fooled by a deception, A bitter pill to swallow. If you experience lots of people who speak falsehoods then its only natural you become an expert at detecting these falsehoods. It is then inevitable that all of our human sense receptors develop a condition where all our senses combined alerts our consciousness whom ever utters the lie then they lose all credabillity. So in order to Lawfully provide proof of a falsehood using a court system ( a court system based on the belief of God endorsed by the Vatican Holy See (The Roman Catholic Pope) and HM The Queen (of the Common Wealth ( the peoples gold) Roman Empire (Knight of the Garter) then yo u understand people who end up like a dog chasing its tail, going round in circles, stuck in a loop.
@mkzharper Says:
@26:00 he claims the beauty standard is contrived.
I beg to differ as one of millions of women suffering with body dismorphia during the early 00s due to media portrayal of the female body.
@RadioJurubeba Says:
Dr Peterson, thank you very much! If it wasn't for your talks lately, I don't know...! God bless! ❤️🙏🏼
@lucythompson5841 Says:
Just do something that will earn you money while you sleep, no matter how little. A pandemic is the perfect way to open your eyes to really see what life could be like without your usual income stream and everyone had to stay home. Well I never felt it because I invested in a trading company where I earn 4 digits per week. The best thing you can do for yourself is invest more and spend less.
@djarcen3498 Says:
What if self-deception is done out of fear? Also, what if that fear prevents you from examining and engaging yourself into thinking in a truthful way?
@mararurane3810 Says:
Thank you. I needed this. Im having that personal hell breaking loose moment right now and lots of destruction has happened, trying to come out of it and make something more trutful out of my life and family- this -all you are saying is really helpful.
@Clint.Walker.Channel Says:
Man, I'm sorry I missed this kind of forum. Maybe next time.
@ArtLogins Says:
A "Necktie" talking about self-deception..... hilarious.... 😀😀😀
@Sassy8utube Says:
Man I wish I could get Mr. Peterson to hang out with my 19 yr old..
@kobynmalone2134 Says:
Hey Dr. Peterson. I had a big question I was hoping you could help me with that I’ve been struggling with for a long time now. It would make my year.
In the case of Schizoid PD, how would the affected person be able to find a silver lining with their ‘schizoid dilemma’? I can’t find a balance between managing my relationships and ensuring that I have the time alone that’s necessary for me to make it through the day.
@hgfw9295 Says:
Today I was talking to my boyfriend about me be lazy with workouts. I way I have been a pro athlete all my life, now at last that I am older mature I feel like I deserve the rest. Even though I know if I keep on slow down my body I will suffer with the loss of flexibility etc. He said: I know what you mean. I feel the same about cooking. Been a chef all my life and feel like stopping to cook forever and for good. And I said: no!!! I love your food!! And he said: no!!! I love your body!! I love our honesty and level of communication.
@hgfw9295 Says:
Be around people who have and follow their schedule. The people you surround yourself with either slow you down by their own lazyness or they uplift you by their own discipline in action (not words).
@BernardAnderson Says:
Thank-you thank-you thank-you thank-you and thank-you again.
@zxsw85 Says:
Thank you
@jasonwright6823 Says:
The elephant under the carpet? :-).
@onebeingeverybody Says:
Ah, you are a wonderful man.
@stevenmonte1496 Says:
If the fantasy is done in secret or excess, then it should be a conversation with the partner. It took a while to fully understand what this meant. It’s a beautiful thing to find the strength to open completely, and avoid unnecessary monsters growing out of the “dark”.
@hvp.26 Says:
Comes healthier everything he becomes sick
@bobkelley8291 Says:
I'm good at making schedules for myself and others but hard time following it. (I am trying to be funny) I said trying not succeeding.
@ramonathon7112 Says:
I even believe there has been (imposters ) placing undue rules in his life in order not to help me from dying on the street succumbing to these people. Like placing unreasonable restrictions using his organization saying I can’t sleep on his floor because I’m of the opposite sex ! How rediculois !!!! How unfair !!! As if he can’t act honourably . I have found out how using phones and texts very easy to Topeka someone over. These texts usually come in separate with numbers on top rather then into the identity in your phone book. Just a text with a number on the top left hand corner . Emails I’m sure can be done as well.
@ramonathon7112 Says:
my brother has not had a relationship with me all my adult life. I’ve made attempts over and over again . But as when young he still treats me the same way. I even looked after his kids when he came to Calgary for a wedding . After years of him not speaking to me even tho I had attempted several times. What would you say I might do to repair what might have never been there? He’s very much a touchy person like my mother was at one time when growing up. I had severed myself from him in the past feeling he could do me serous needless harm as he’s felt for years my family has kept him from money . This is not true. I’ve learned how these fraudulent people can defraud using your name phone number or identity. I had never considered these to be extortions. Or overtly done to ruin someone’s reputation. I remember being shocked at the amount of money my roof and floor cost my step father ! I also never accepted anything more then $500 through a bank account as well.
@ramonathon7112 Says:
I’ve never intentionally lashed out at my parents . I’ve always tried to deal with things myself. I believe my brother not knowing me for 40 years has effected these people . I have great incite into his demeanour . They may even use you to display his attitude toward me . It’s hard to say. By times I take this with a grain of salt. We are all human and must direct people to the same source we ourselves got knowledge. This way we can fully get rewarded in ways not thought possible. How do they know where to go? I know I can’t take credit for the things I’ve developed myself. Knowing first hand where I was taught. Hours of reading all my life .
@ramonathon7112 Says:
I know many men and women who spend tons of time by themselves that are not called these deviant names or likened to a social path ! How ridiculous ! My customers in Calgary who I’ve served would attest to me being sociable. I’ve been kept from certain relationships as well. So.
I’ve also noticed that my rights have been taken away and do NOT NEED the babysitting. Under the seste Que vit law I want the information that’s not there.
@ramonathon7112 Says:
The only times I’ve actually removed myself from a situation is when they are effecting my peace.
@ramonathon7112 Says:
I’m very very very good at moving forward and living in the now. I’ve been accused of not moving forward as I never want to say good bye to people I care about. I don’t think I should. I don’t have a problem with forgiving like I’ve been accused of . I’m aware of what overt games can do to a family now. I’m woke. I’m not afraid of what I now see.
@ramonathon7112 Says:
I have always loved and admired you however these assholes that think they know everything have always kept these issuers from 14 years ago fresh . Even tho I’ve long forgiven my step father for being preoccupied with travel and other interests that did nothing but make us all vulnerable to being used rather then pointing blame to themselves !
I admire you for having done this pod cast! I would have loved to do this !!! If I still can or found my phone I would love to! Now I realize this is a possibility for me. If you can do it I can do it. I’d would use simpler words I think myself . I wish you all the success and hope like hell you haven’t ruined your own spiritual life at the expense. I didn’t know you could interview each other? This is more of what I wanted to do. Maybe this is what this native girl was attempting to tell me about! I had no idea. There are people on here working in the community who will guess at what I’m going through and ask questions to on my behalf . Or have you give talks on things they think I may be interested in. They may represent conversations they have overheard . Busy bodies get paid very well I can imagine .
@LeonardoChavezRivas Says:
We will continue to listen so long your are willing and able to keep talking sir. Thanks so much for sharing your incredible cognitive wealth with us.
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