Very interesting. I did agree with most of what she said up until critical race theory. There is absolutely no institution or school system teaching that white ppl need to feel guilty or bad about slavery. Not one ever. Curriculums hardly have anything about slavery or Jim Crow. Maybe a sentence, if that. There is no critical race theory occurring in America. If white ppl are feeling guilty, it isn’t bc of anything that they heard in any school system. Something else is occurring in the psyche of White ppl if they feel guilt just learning about slavery and guilt. They need to lean into the feelings of guilt opposed to hiding from it. Teaching history is just that, teaching history. No opinions, just facts. It is disingenuous to associate what is happening within the LGBTQ community with racial history. History is history. It is a bold face lie that anyone is made to feel guilt. Because of the error of her claims about critical race theory and the misuse of the word woke, I now cannot fully believe all of the “facts” that she has presented about the LGBTQ community. It causes me to wonder what else is not entirely true that she has presented. I will keep what she says in mind and continue to do my own research using reputable sources.
@user-en8vp5ib7b Says:
another factor is parent estrangement and so grandparents (thousands of them) have no influence or even access to their grown children and their grandchildren.
@hadenanderson563 Says:
You can Coddle the Confidence out of kids.
@catrinabutler6397 Says:
The sciences in general used to be like spelunking or some sort of exploratory mental sport... now sciences are treated as experiments that becomes facts..
@mayereisenberger-dt5tr Says:
@JBP said an interesting hypothesis that kids today's days are fragile because of the age of their parents.
But I question that because we see the same amount of mental health problems in the cultures with tons of kids and young parents
@Alcibades1 Says:
This is really overproduced
@Visiblename7 Says:
Hope your therapist has a good therapist
@vinz426 Says:
as a child and as a parent, I like jordan! this is gold.
@williamwhitten7820 Says:
*I am so glad I grew up in the 1950s and 60s, long before any of this outrageous psychobabble hit the mainstream circuit.* *I am 78 years old now and totally sane thanks to my being born back then.*
@williamwhitten7820 Says:
*Did anyone else notice the squirrel running along behind Abigale at **1:41:47**?*
@TSBAMA Says:
I agree. Its trendy now😓
@biancaturner725 Says:
I don't hv children, I know no one who has gender issues, I'm looking at that from the instrumentalisation pov, that worries me
@FreeSpirit47 Says:
Have had 8 different therapists, only one did any good for me. It was like the frustration & disappointment of dating.
The last counselor I had, lied to me.
I had concrete proof plus the intuition of her lies.
When I spoke to her about it, she completely denied it.
Just as I decided to remain single & celibate in 2012 which gave me a lot of relief. After the counselor lied to me, I decided I would never go to another counselor. T
The counselors lack of ethics, lying to me then lying about lying to me. Such a deep lack in professional integrity.
@Cherelle-c6y Says:
Have to be very careful sending them on there own anywhere in this time
@lisa-h8m6h Says:
I was shocked this year there was a special ed teacher in my child's class. But shrugged it off even when told she would be with my son's teacher about my sons educational plan with me. However, I had a gut feeling the following would happen. I decided to let them talk talk. I was right. It seemed the special education teacher had read my son's medical notes which are data protected but I would sound crazy if I said that. She asked questions that contradicted reality. For example after saying she can speak my son's language and he speaks really well and fluent she asks if I've ever been worried about his speaking. I said no not at all. She seemed disappointed or she had expected I had said yes, in his notes a nurse had wrongly put that he was non verbal. She put that because he said no to all the activities. This is important because he has to have had a development delay in order to get specialised care. He was 3 and he wanted to play with his little brother not talk with the nurse. This had caused me alot of trouble. Then the special ed teacher said she had chosen a psychologist because she had modeled for my son to play dr with other students and he said no. I am educated on who abusers target: obedient children. So to me this is a good thing because he knows difference between real authority and perceived and also the value on trusting your gut. For them it was a social problem at the same time they said he was funny. My son was outside the door saying mommy what are you doing here? I said he's new in the school this is normal. They said of course he's normal we just want to help him develop. I complained to the principal. Anyways one time after school he asked if the dr could cut his penis off because he's tired of peeing. I said well sometimes if your hand is sick or if your arm is sick Drs cut them off. He started to cry and say stop it mom! Stop scaring me! Well it's the same with your penis you need it. I asked where did he see that about a boy losing his penis. He said home. I said when? I make sure I know what we see on tv. It gets tiring the way people make it hard to grow up normally.
@BeIntrigued.MJBConcepcionC Says:
Brilliant 😅🎉🎉❤
@Monchuha Says:
I love JBP and his podcasts, but damn, let your guests speak a bit more, Jordan :)
@SoccerMom247 Says:
I think part of what is missing here is talking about the requirement by the courts for a healthy parent to use child therapists to combat the effects of their Cluster B co-parent and overcome false narratives in order to obtain equal parenting or more than equal parenting. If you do not have a therapist on your side, that equates to not being able to be a parent to your child. In the USA, it's required that divorced parents enlist a therapist to prove they are healthy unless you want to lose all contact with your child, which means obeying everything they tell you to do. And even then some parents still lose all child contact.
@calebhansen7580 Says:
What a fascinating conversation. I had inklings of this problem, but couldn’t articulate it. Thank you for expanding my understanding.
@waves7250 Says:
My younger brother is a severe schizophrenic and hypochondriac who would shop doctors and therapist for medications/diagnosis he wanted for whatever new illness his decided he had which made things worse. One therapist asked him if he was abused as a child for which he said no. Then the therapist decided it would be a good idea to suggest to a severe schizophrenic he had suppressed memories of childhood abuse and he should undergo hypnotherapy and imagine getting abused as a child and see what emotions come up which convinced him it had happened. Now our family is completely fractured and I think the damage is long beyond repair.
@mariliamoreno5525 Says:
What a fantastic conversation!!! ❤❤❤❤
@kamilawalker7089 Says:
This is so true and so scary it actually makes me cry. I have two kids who I struggle to bring up against the mainstream that is discussed here in detail.
@gesalbte Says:
40:05 "[...] Trigger warning and protection, which is exactly the opposite of what you would do if you were an actual credible therapist, because what you do to make people less anxious is find out what they are afraid of, and then expose them in graduated doses to what they are afraid of."
40:24 "You don't say, well, you are a victim, and now you have to be protected from everything. What you do if you do that is you make them worse."
@Veederlicht Says:
1:30:55 "The problem with these bloody 'experts' is that they dont love your child" -> amen, nothing can replace loving parents.
@gingerpasquale2769 Says:
My son was diagnosed with all kinds of stuff, prescribed a huge concoction of medication, both of uppers and downers. Was told by the school principle to put him in an inpatient program. Struggling I followed the what I thought were experts was telling me. As we continued to struggle. I took my son off of all these medications and just let him be a kid, listened to him, supported him and he did so much better. I agree not all therapy is good. ...
@sophiekarakan2086 Says:
47:11 Although I’ve met anomalies of children who have been unaffected by these issues (heartbreaking that it is such a small number)
I believe it stems from parents projecting onto their children. They witnessed real trauma in their lives which therapy helped them to cope with. So it worked for them and to PREVENT trauma for their children they rush to therapy like a miracle cure for all…
Also, I feel that in the same way education was designed for the production of good factory workers. This new generation are having a similar narrative in the sense that, how easy is it to control a person who feels they need to ask for permission or guidance before they take every single step?
One could even go as far as to say that over the span of an entire generation is a system of dangerous indoctrination.
@countrygamer6096 Says:
1:16:02 Of course they dread it. Who would willingly accept a a child that's like them, a spoiled, spineless brat.
@Ccb516lira Says:
Чудная беседа...спасибо большое,жаль нет вас в переводе на русский.благослови вас Господь
@ciel-miku8567 Says:
Absolutely agree with this.
I want to have children but there is this anger in me I need to explore before committing. And I realise now it's how insufferable I find children. Entitled, rude, moody, waited on hand and foot by parents teachers and society. The thought that I have to be enslaved to a child as per modern expectations and tip toe around their tantrums. Buggar that, sounds exhausting. I'd like to raise Children I like to hang out with, who are competent. I would like to be a mother who can be firm, generous and guiding in a way that benifits all parties involved. Thank you for this podcast, it's so refreshing. I don't want to bolster the insufferable weaponized incompetence and victim mentality that is the fad today.
@lucindamoran8686 Says:
Another way of looking at this is the modern world with constant monitoring makes the children of today crybabies....my parents were loving orphans raised by granparents and strangers because their lives were so hard they instilled a love for humanity and empathy in us 5 kids also a strong work ehic! Lol❤😂 easy for us back then....we also got spankings when we needed it...didn't matter to us we got over the spankings and lived! Also l sang at Mama's funeral like she requested,l couldn't have had better parents, l miss Mama and Daddy to this very day! I always appreciated them l loved them and they knew it!❤🎉
@lucindamoran8686 Says:
Excellent topic! Thank you Mr. Jordan! I have worked in the salon business for 50yrs now..l work with a real sweet young lady of 19,she is very quiet and hard to get to know....she wears her older brothers clothes to work...nothing girly...your discussion explains a lot, as l have noticed alot of odd children lately lwas just wondering what may be going on....l am 70,congenial, friendly,hardworking l just needed a little hint as to what is happening these days....l was divorced nearly 30 years ago no children so l have lost track of what is happening these days..lt all sounds complicated....but you put it in simple terms...l get it now...lt has been many years since l graduated from the University with a degree in Art....Thank you both for this information! Most helpful! I need to know these things so l can continue to work well with all kinds of people , as of yet l bring coffee and cookies to the salon and try to be a friend to all....Things have changed socially in the salon,with inclusivity, and all the rest,which is good! I am happy to report hairstyles have technically been the same since 1973! Lol lt is only the names of the styles have changed! 🎉😂 l picked the right profession for me! 😊
@leetomlinson2878 Says:
It was such an insidious move to align transgender with homosexuality, and gay conversion therapy with so-called trans conversion therapy. I think it played a huge part in how this ideology was accepted by the masses.
@forthineistheglory Says:
I had a horrible counselor when I was 16 he was so mean to me. Told me I thought I was hot shit 😂
@DenverJules84 Says:
Somehow all the wise choices we made as parents have been flipped around and seen as abusive now. Letting your children walk to school,assigning chores, getting summer jobs in high school- all these are signs of neglect and abdication of our adult duties. I gotta think we’re overdue for a pendulum swing when there’ll be a baby boom and a return to traditional parenting. Our job is to raise kids who can function without us
@herenaakuma85 Says:
That example of failing to become med doctor hit me personally.
I sacrificed 2.5 years of my life and failed at getting phisiotherapy degree. I sacrificed my personal life, my hobbies, my sleep and still failed, my memory was just not good enough to contain all the data.
It made me fearfull of commitement. From that point whenever i hit an obsticle i would give up becouse trying harder meant failiure will also hurt more.
My parents were unhelpfull.
Father was distant for years now.
Mother always thought that my "weak memory" is just me being rebelious and my failiures are a product of my laziness.
Im 33 and only now i barely getting up.
Im smart, artistic and good with manual stuff. I could have been a woodworker or something 😮💨
@JuliaBarron-qi5gc Says:
Yes thats why there us Peer groups cause not every person is lycky enough to have you as a personal helper and healer. Glad you are admitting that and letting us know about helping each other and turning to our Lord
@jamiegould5191 Says:
I think parents are confused. I know I am. My son might have autism, he just turned 3. And I'm SO torn on what to do because I want to do what's best, but what is that? I have no experience with autism or how to handle that. Does he even have that? Or is it just him taking his time with speech.
@GarrettBradfordTX Says:
Has anyone ever timed to see how much more Jordan talks than his guest? I’ve never seen anything like it lol. I like him don’t get me wrong
@EasternParenting Says:
I understand the concerns about over-therapizing kids, but I’m not sure I fully agree with the idea that therapy itself is the root problem. From my experience, the real issue isn’t therapy, but bad therapy or unqualified therapists. I’ve seen children benefit enormously from the right kind of guidance, especially when parents didn’t have the tools themselves. So maybe instead of dismissing therapy as harmful, the conversation should focus more on improving its quality and setting boundaries for when it’s truly needed
@carolkelly6933 Says:
Our best minds in psychology and mental health today. Theorists, researchers, educators, and practitioners. All need to gather for a "Return to Boulder"! To begin the process of redefining the breathe and scope of the field of psychology. The work that psychologists, and other mental health professionals do. And, how they do it. With a focus on our changing times. A redefining effort such as this hasn't been undertaken in over 70+ years! The negative consequences of such neglect are clearly visible. With an almost total lack of attention to how the field of psychology "stacks-Up". With regard to overwhelming change (socially, politically, technologically, and etc..). The field of psychology and mental health work, now suffers from the diluting of occult doubles, political whims, and a primary lack of adherence to principles of objectivity and do no harm. I fear that if we don't take steps to redefine who we are and what we do, and under what context(s). As, decades-ago, our ancestors once did. Will be compelled, restricted, reprimanded, and replaced by cheap third-party-payer provided AI programs, and worse. All within a very short time.
@Unicorn111-g3m Says:
I have to disageee as kids seek out therapy for various reasons, including but not limited to a discomfort with sharing vulnerable, personal information with their parent(s) as most teens don't want to talk to their parents about sex and bullying and all of the realities teens are facing each day. Ideally, a good therapist will want to include the family in some sessions as no child is raised in a vacuum. That said, some parents do not have the self-awareness to support their child in their struggles without seeing it as an attack on their skills as a parent. Some parents cannot do that for themselves either. Thus, I think therapy can and is a great option for kids looking for a safe space to be vulnerable but a bad therapist can destroy that space and the value the therapeutic relationship offers a child/teen. I also believe a good therapist operates from a place of benevolence. .
@Humanrights6789 Says:
I agree that there are harmful therapists in the world. But most ethical therapists would not work with children who do not have any identifiable mental health condition. In these cases, it is usually parents who want the therapist to “fix” the kid (I.e. get the kid to behave etc outside of session). This is not realistic or helpful. Agencies will take these types of clients because it produces revenue. I refuse to work at any of these agencies because of those practices. Any ethical therapist will also not “agree or disagree” with a transgender identity, but simply create a supportive space for the client to process their own identity/ thoughts/ emotions etc (usually through self disclosure). Any reputable therapist will not encourage a specific identity on a child and I don’t know any one that has done that.
@etaokha4164 Says:
Weak parents enable their kids behaviour and expect others to raise them instead of the parents doing it because they are Lazy and cant be bothered and see the kids as burden who just take take take take
@charlottedavies2319 Says:
The idea that I sense is discussed in this conversation, that the only option, besides people talking about their feelings, is to not have therapy, is another harm, in my eyes. There is a reason why people need therapy. There is a difference between talking about your feelings, and learning how to process them.
@Torsdagskvallsmys Says:
I know that some tramsgenders "change sex" to girls becuse of jealousy. I this know this, because they told me so.
@42.421 Says:
How would you do therapy with someone who is non verbal?
@42.421 Says:
100% of my experience the therapists come out with a basic one liner you tell them something and get back ' yes that would be something thats defined as a traumatic incident'
Theres nothing deeper you leave feeling worse than you started
@42.421 Says:
So the bpd are trying to fill the whole from their parents and usually have no understanding or awareness at this stage
@42.421 Says:
So they are choosing a life as a drugged mental health patient over success and prospects? I find this hard to believe they are choosing this themselves. It could be they are pushed into it to cover up for an abusive environment? Have not come across someone from a happy home with mental issues usually too busy enjoying a well minded life
These kids are being abused and brainwashed
@pauliberg3492 Says:
listened to this interview for the 3rd time, thankyou so much..a conversation about life, how to do life...
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